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[Anonymous]

OP here. So update on my son’s injured foot! It’s a damaged growth plate. That girl did all of this. And, he did reach out asking to talk some more and apologize, but I’m not sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

Okay this is very interesting. Your son has aggravated the injury intentionally. Whatever you think of that, it is a cry for help and an effort to extract you both from this family situation. I think that needs to be handled by you and therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

Okay this is very interesting. Your son has aggravated the injury intentionally. Whatever you think of that, it is a cry for help and an effort to extract you both from this family situation. I think that needs to be handled by you and therapy.

+1 Agree, this was not caused by a kick. Your son was clearly not clearly happy with how things were and you need to break up because of that.