Hiring a gorgeous nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Don't flatter yourself.

There's no way the nanny will be anything but disgusted by the thought of your dadbod husband.

As a mid 40s dad with a but if a dad bod but otherwise conventionally attractive, I can promise you that there are lots of mid20s women who disagree with you.

Yeah it’s not true I loved a 40’s dad bod in my 20’s. But not married ones! Ew. Obviously the primary problem for the wife is her husband, but as an outsider those nannies are super gross and unethical.

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Anonymous wrote:Hell no. We’re very monogamous, but if I had a hot young man in my home who was good with my kids, did every chore I asked him to with a smile on his face, and listened without complaint when I told him to put his phone away, you bet I’d be hitting that.

It's common sense. Personally I won't have any live in nanny - I only do live out even though I have help at crazy hours. Better someone who lives nearby and has their own life.

My best nannies are in their 40s, had kids young, married, and live within 5 mile radius

You do realize this is the perfect scenario for cheating. Easy access and both with something to lose so they're more likely to keep it quiet to keep it going.

Easy access while taking care of 3 kids who talk? My husband and nanny are very busy...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

I did summer nannying and a lot of babysitting while I was in grad school. I started with one family in a wealthy Boston suburb and the mother's friends all began propositioning me for sitting or summer stints on the Cape.

But more than one dad behaved sleezily with me or made an outright pass. I wasn't interested in them and didn't do anything to encourage that behavior, but it still happened often enough that I'd worry. And it was usually the guy who seemed like an upstanding family man, not the near absentee banker father. Very depressing.

I want to know what the poachers say.

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Anonymous wrote:I was friends with a 20–something gorgeous nanny. She ended up engaged to a guy in finance a couple years older than her and very attractive. Their HHI is in the 7 figures and she’s no longer nearby so we’ve drifted apart. I still think of her and smile whenever I see posts on here about people worried the nanny is going to seduce their middle aged husbands. No offense, but especially if she’s attractive, she has her sights set much higher.

Unless she's mentally ill or likes yours husband

Or maybe she is easy? It's highly doubtful that a hot nanny will hook up with a young guy making big bucks.

BINGO.

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Anonymous wrote:Hell no. We’re very monogamous, but if I had a hot young man in my home who was good with my kids, did every chore I asked him to with a smile on his face, and listened without complaint when I told him to put his phone away, you bet I’d be hitting that.

It's common sense. Personally I won't have any live in nanny - I only do live out even though I have help at crazy hours. Better someone who lives nearby and has their own life.

My best nannies are in their 40s, had kids young, married, and live within 5 mile radius

You do realize this is the perfect scenario for cheating. Easy access and both with something to lose so they're more likely to keep it quiet to keep it going.

Easy access while taking care of 3 kids who talk? My husband and nanny are very busy...

So if it's that the case a 20 year old nany shouldn't be a problem. Either your husband is a cheater or he isn't and your misogyny won't stop him. And yes busy people with kids cheat all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your husband would cheat on you with the nanny?

If they got to know and like each other

But she will never be as good as me in bed, so I wouldn’t need to worry.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your husband would cheat on you with the nanny?

Do you really think the gorgeous nanny would cheat with your old husband…lol

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Bad idea

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Hey.. you could go on a wild adventure and see what happens or hire someone else. It all depends on how much risk you’re willing to take.
I personally wouldn’t tempt the devil.

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Bad idea

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Anonymous wrote:I was friends with a 20–something gorgeous nanny. She ended up engaged to a guy in finance a couple years older than her and very attractive. Their HHI is in the 7 figures and she’s no longer nearby so we’ve drifted apart. I still think of her and smile whenever I see posts on here about people worried the nanny is going to seduce their middle aged husbands. No offense, but especially if she’s attractive, she has her sights set much higher.

Unless she's mentally ill or likes yours husband

Plenty of young women don't have access to super rich finance guys, and will take someone they think will take care of her. I mean, she's a nanny. And plenty of young women have daddy complexes.

I wouldn't. I have seen the super hot young woman flirt with the older guy/husband because they want something.

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What disturbs me is that you bring up your fantasies about him hooking up with another woman and you think that might play out here! If you are intrigued by that idea, fine, (I know I am), but don’t consider it to be a remotely okay situation for somebody going to hire and who will live with you. For one, can you imagine how the nanny would feel about your considering her living out your fantasy?

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Anonymous wrote:Currently living this nightmare, except our nanny is anything but gorgeous. Don't do it, OP!

Did you have issues with your marriage before? How were they alone together?

I didn't think they were huge issues but I guess my spouse was unhappy. Sex was definitely at a low, but we have a pandemic baby and two older kids, and it's just a challenging time in our marriage. Perfect storm I guess. Their relationship started over texts and once my spouse started taking over some drop off/pick up duties it just went from there (nanny was not in-home but nanny share).

I'm being left for her.

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IT;'S FINE, OP. Don't let your insecurities take over if you are comfortable in your marriage. This would cost you the marriage more than DH cheating on nanny and it might never happen.

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Anonymous wrote:They don’t need to be gorgeous. Remember Schwarzenegger?

Gwen stefanis husband and reese witherspoon husband also cheated with nannies. So did Ethan Hawke. He cheated on uma with their nanny.

And Jude Law / Sienna Miller. She us gorgeous! Often cheating has nothing ti fo with looks.

Proximity, access and familiarity.