Gym don'ts

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Anonymous wrote:You need to go to a different gym. The gym I use has plenty of women in the weight room doing upper body work. Male lifters are happy to see them there.

So does mine and I have no issues there. I do not let people intimidate me even if they try so really no issue there. I just realize that not everyone is thoroughly impressed by my ability to rep out pull-ups and my defined traps.

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Anyone who uses a squat rack to do arm curls should be banned for life.

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Don't get upset when other gym members ruin your instragram video.

Lets be real, nobody real cares about your stretching routine.

Brief videos are ok for recording PRs. But trying to show off your workout "routine" when you're a 21 year old kid is just plain silly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't go to the gym anymore as I made a home gym, but here are mine to add:

Please don't make videos for your insta when other people are around. I don't want to be in your video. Also, stop slowly sauntering in the hallway, filming yourself and talking about how you're at the gym again. You're in everyone's way and everyone else is trying to work out for real instead of pretend to work out for likes.

If you are in a weight room with closed doors and the only other patron is female, wave and then stay away.

+1M

PP, you're my new DCUM BFF. Thank you for speaking out about this! I remember a bunch of middle-aged (55+) women were hogging the bathroom entrance pre-pandemic to make a boomerang. Even the teenagers at the gym were side-eyeing them.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

Women already have upper body muscles, as do men. Human anatomy 101. I (unfortunately) get what you're saying, but this is an extremely weird hill for him to die on.

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Don't chew tobacco. I have started seeing a 20s something guys doing this. Plus a sit bottle. Gross! just, no.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

… he’s jealous of you and doesn’t want you to beat him in any way?! What attracted you to this man?! What keeps you with him?!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

… he’s jealous of you and doesn’t want you to beat him in any way?! What attracted you to this man?! What keeps you with him?!

I was not into fitness when I met him in grad school. He was good looking, had great sense of humor and was generally easy to hang out with. Sadly, I did not pay enough attention to the early warning signs. Now we mostly stay coupled because of our child.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

Sounds like he may need to hit the weights for an upper body routine. Seriously, guys with puny arms are the worst

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

… he’s jealous of you and doesn’t want you to beat him in any way?! What attracted you to this man?! What keeps you with him?!

NP my husband is the same. I am in much better shape than him and he's jealous. I have always been into fitness and could help him get in shape but he'd never let me help him because he lacks the discipline to stick with it and he'd feel "weak" Instead he bashes me and tells me I'm vain for working out and wanting to look a certain way. I suppose there is an element of vanity but I do it for my mental health and I love it and always have, even before he met me.

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Men: don’t pee in the locker room shower

[Anonymous]

I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

I’m amazed that you haven’t shamed him into getting into shape. It’s sad and embarrassing when a wife is in better shape than her husband - though I see it all the time. You shouldn’t worry about being unattractive to him… I think he is worried about being unattractive to you, but instead of making himself more attractive he is trying to drag you down to his level. What a loser!

[Anonymous]

Don’t take a dump in gym