Entitled EOTP parents
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Anonymous
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It's really ridiculous at my Title 1 school. I hope the principal stops them in their tracks. They have no idea what disadvantages some of the kids face. We are a middle class biracial family and are turned off by some of these parents. Gentrification is good, but not when you have parents who don't have a clue or complain about the littlest things.
How are the parents at your Title 1 (up and coming) school? |
Anonymous
| Can you give an example OP? What are the parents demanding and how is the principal reacting? |
Anonymous
| I would agree with PP. Define entitled. I'm not saying I disagree with the entitled statement, but I'm curious what precipitated it. |
Anonymous
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You can scream "entitled" or you can just revel in the fact that, as schools are getting better, there is many little stuff to be fret over. So that's what people fret over.
Also, something to keep in mind is that gentrifying schools have high proportion of parents with first borns. Skin color and skin tone makes no difference: parents with first borns are notoriously more uptight and anxious. Give them a break until their second comes along. I guarantee you they'll be easier going. |
Anonymous
+1. I strive not to be entitled, but it's not always easy to know what may be perceived as entitled by others. |
Anonymous
I'm at a Title 1 school EOTP school. There are definitely some differences in style and focus between the gentrifier parents (including myself). I think that it's also a slight difference in parenting priorities due to the ages of the kids in question. The gentrifiers all have kids in PK3 or 4, so they are almost by definition out of touch with the way things work in the upper grades. In PK, kids are pretty much all on the same level (with some obvious differences between kids who are reading early and kids who are delayed in some way), but as kids get older, the differences in academics become more pronounced. The older kids also have legacy behavioral issues that were tolerated by the previous principal that are not tolerated by the new principal, and this has caused some friction between the new administration and the parents of the misbehaving kids. I don't really see the gentrifiers as being entitled or clueless. They just come from really different backgrounds and, as you said, don't have a clue what some of the kids face outside school. Their complaints seem small when taken in the context of larger issues faced by kids in class, but for them, issues like kids getting yogurt with a lot of added sugar for breakfast or Dora the Explorer being shown in aftercare once a week are really big deals. Privilege is what it is. |
Anonymous
| OP here, it's the proposed fundraising events to how teachers should focus more on X than Y. |
Anonymous
What kind of fundraisers are they suggesting? What do they think teachers should be focusing on? |
Anonymous
That's not really helpful, OP... Fundraisers are typically a PTA/booster function and have nothing to do with teachers, principals or academics. As for X versus Y what are the X and Y? |
Anonymous
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Parents SHOULD be entitled when it comes to education.
They ARE entitled to a quality education for their kids and dedicated teachers whether they are EOTP or elsewhere. |
Anonymous
| OP, please give more specifics. Right now it just sounds like you are venting about involved parents, not entitled ones. |
Anonymous
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Well, I am a "gentrifier," and personally don't think sugar or a little aftercare TV are that big a deal. I am definitely focused on bigger things such as outside fundraising. I try to listen more than I talk, be very sensitive and prioritize the needs of at-risk kids, and almost never go against what anyone wants to do to benefit that group.
But ultimately, it's not like I'm an education policy expert. If there are other concerns of higher priority than what I bring up, I wouldn't be offended to have someone explain why. I try to be sensitive but I'm not a mind reader. And I do think there's a place for parent feedback about small issues too. It benefits all the kids to have better quality aftercare and food, especially the ones who are getting too much sugar and TV at home, so what is so bad about mentioning it? I certainly would not blow it out of proportion, and maybe there is a good reason that the yogurt is what it is. But caring about issues big and small is what makes for a great school. Sometimes it's the little things that show parents the school administration is really listening. All the parents matter. |
Anonymous
I generally agree with this, but it depends on what it is, and sometimes, it should not be to the detriment of other kids because the other kids can't afford something. |
Anonymous
| OP, why don't you just say what this is actually about? The vagueness is not helping. |
Anonymous
Oh balls, my kid hasn't transitioned to dcps yet, but if those examples were considered entitlement, I would be a mega monster entitled pain. Is this something else you have to add to the "concrete differences between EOTP and WOTP schools other than wealthy families" thread? Do WOTP appropriately limit screen time to zero in early learning, and have some awareness about the health problems from too much sugar? |