Husband wants me to convert
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Anonymous
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When we met and married, I was in the process of changing from another mainline Protestant denomination to Anglicanism. My soon to be husband, being Roman Catholic, was all for it. I felt that was a little strange, but now I understand - he has been hoping all this time that I would be led to Catholicism. It's been 10 years and he has suddenly become very insistent about it.
The problem is - that's never going to happen! He's very, very pushy about it and it becomes an argument almost every Sunday. Our children were both baptized Protestant and now he thinks that was wrong as well. How do I convince him I'm not going to convert? |
Anonymous
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Look him in the eye and tell him it's not going to happen. Repeat as needed. You can vary it by saying he's disrespecting you by expecting you to change your religious beliefs. |
Anonymous
| He seems to think I am personally criticizing his faith by not converting. Is there any good way to deal with that? |
Anonymous
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As a Catholic he should know that you can't marry someone with the expectation that they will make some huge change after marriage.
Are you two getting along well otherwise? |
Anonymous
As anything, he shouldn't have had this expectation. OP, was it truly that he always thought you convert? I would doubt this b/c why have the kids baptized Protestant. You think he would have said something then. I wonder if something else is going on that he's not being explicit about. Maybe he doesn't realize it himself. You may need to speak with a counselor, even a minister or priest might be appropriate. |
Anonymous
| We get along pretty well. Day to day life is messy, as always, but we love each other. |
Anonymous
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Just be firm, tell him it's never going to happen, and that it's not an insult to him or his faith that you aren't willing to give up yours. Be firm and remind him that every time he brings this up he will get the same answer.
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Anonymous
| Agree with the PPs. As a Catholic who married two non-baptized people (one at a time, of course, with one annulment), I never expected that my husband/s would convert. However, I also made sure that they were happy that potential children would be baptized and raised in the faith. I think talking with a religious adviser would be a start. |
Anonymous
What a dummy: if he turns that argument around, he's criticizing your faith by not converting to Anglicanism! |
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Anonymous
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Wait. Your "soon to be husband" and you have children?
Some Catholic he is. Just tell him there's no way your children are going to come within 1000 yards of those perv priests. |
Anonymous
| No. He was my soon to be husband when I was confirmed. |
Anonymous
| You should convert. There is no difference between the two and why go to separate churches. |
Anonymous
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OP..I NEVER understand people like you. I'm a pretty flexible person, but there are about 4 things in life that are absolutely non negotiable and religion is one of them. How is this evenue an issue? My DH would feel foolish after asking this twice. I'd be direct and to the point. The second time I'd be so crystal clear there would not be a third, and if he tried a third time I'd be worried he might be suffering alzhhimers.
You must be pussy footing around the issue. Grow a pait and your problem will go away. |
Anonymous
| Grow a pair. |