Husband wants me to convert

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reason for wanting you to convert?

He had bought into the marketing and fear. Her DH is worried for her soul.

OP: this, pretty much.

Religion is very personal. Meh doesn't have responsibility for your soul; you do. Tell him to back off. He is way out of bounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reason for wanting you to convert?

He had bought into the marketing and fear. Her DH is worried for her soul.

OP: this, pretty much.

Religion is very personal. Meh doesn't have responsibility for your soul; you do. Tell him to back off. He is way out of bounds.

I think this is bullshit. A family is much more personal than religion. Asking someone to convert from Jew to Islam to Athiest to Christian is one thing. Anglican to Catholic is a small thing for family unity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we met and married, I was in the process of changing from another mainline Protestant denomination to Anglicanism. My soon to be husband, being Roman Catholic, was all for it. I felt that was a little strange, but now I understand - he has been hoping all this time that I would be led to Catholicism. It's been 10 years and he has suddenly become very insistent about it.

The problem is - that's never going to happen!

He's very, very pushy about it and it becomes an argument almost every Sunday. Our children were both baptized Protestant and now he thinks that was wrong as well.

How do I convince him I'm not going to convert?

He's not a very informed Catholic if he really thinks that having your children baptised in the Anglican church was wrong. Their baptisms are recognized by the Catholic Church. If the children decided to become Catholic, they could start now or as an adult. They would not be rebaptised if they started the process to become fully confirmed Catholics. It seems fair to have them exposed to both churches so that they can decide (if you are not already doing so).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reason for wanting you to convert?

He had bought into the marketing and fear. Her DH is worried for her soul.

OP: this, pretty much.

Religion is very personal. Meh doesn't have responsibility for your soul; you do. Tell him to back off. He is way out of bounds.

I think this is bullshit. A family is much more personal than religion. Asking someone to convert from Jew to Islam to Athiest to Christian is one thing. Anglican to Catholic is a small thing for family unity.

It's actually a very big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reason for wanting you to convert?

He had bought into the marketing and fear. Her DH is worried for her soul.

OP: this, pretty much.

Religion is very personal. Meh doesn't have responsibility for your soul; you do. Tell him to back off. He is way out of bounds.

I think this is bullshit. A family is much more personal than religion. Asking someone to convert from Jew to Islam to Athiest to Christian is one thing. Anglican to Catholic is a small thing for family unity.

It's actually a very big difference.

x2.

[Anonymous]

lol. one believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the other believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the masses are essentially identical, as both date to the Nicene council.

One is Catholic. The other is Catholic after Henry VIII wanted a divorce but didn't want to go all Martin Luther or John Calvin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol. one believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the other believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the masses are essentially identical, as both date to the Nicene council.

One is Catholic. The other is Catholic after Henry VIII wanted a divorce but didn't want to go all Martin Luther or John Calvin.

The Church of England had substantial theological differences prior to that.

Yes, the masses are essentially identical, which is why my DH assumed I'd have no issues becoming RC. That does not mean the beliefs are the same, however similarly we worship.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol. one believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the other believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the masses are essentially identical, as both date to the Nicene council.

One is Catholic. The other is Catholic after Henry VIII wanted a divorce but didn't want to go all Martin Luther or John Calvin.

The Church of England had substantial theological differences prior to that.

Yes, the masses are essentially identical, which is why my DH assumed I'd have no issues becoming RC. That does not mean the beliefs are the same, however similarly we worship.

-OP

you going off to one church on Sunday while your husband goes to another one is not going to make for a healthy marriage. that is stupid. A church is supposed to be a community. One of you needs to compromise.

or you should both just go episcopalian or lutheran. IT IS ALL THE SAME THING. Just read the friggin bible and stop obsessing over silly differences created by old white guys in the 1500s and 1600s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol. one believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the other believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the masses are essentially identical, as both date to the Nicene council.

One is Catholic. The other is Catholic after Henry VIII wanted a divorce but didn't want to go all Martin Luther or John Calvin.

The Church of England had substantial theological differences prior to that.

Yes, the masses are essentially identical, which is why my DH assumed I'd have no issues becoming RC. That does not mean the beliefs are the same, however similarly we worship.

-OP

+1 Stand your ground OP. But to do that, really stand it- make sure that it's clear you aren't changing religions again, that any exploration you were doing is over and you've decided now and that it is no longer up for debate. Alternate where you take the children maybe if it makes him feel better but that's it.

[Anonymous]

This really is a non-issue.

OP, if you would jeopardize your marriage over something like this you have problems. The reality is that there are few differences of any significance between the RC faith and that of other mainline Christian denominations.

I belong to what would be considered a liberal Christian denomination but the liturgy is very similar to that of the RC faith and so are the basic tenets of both faiths.

It would be different if you belonged to a totally different faith like being Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, etc. If that were the case, I'd be totally with you. I am not sure I understand why your husband feels the need to push you into converting other than possibly the wish to attend services together but it makes no sense to me to take a stand on something like this where there is no real difference in the fundamental tenets of your faith and that of RC doctrines.

It does beg the question that another PP asked as to whether there is something more deep seated going on in your marriage and especially how your husband feels about it given that he apparently had no problem baptizing the kids outside the RC church.

[Anonymous]

I should have said before that we do generally attend my church, so all the comments about us going separately are wrong. It's also been over 15 years since I attended any other church, so I'm not church hopping.

I just feel badly that whenever I tell him it's not going to happen, it ends up becoming a fight.

[Anonymous]

What is unacceptable is that he thinks he can alter an important part of your identity after so many years of marriage. Has he not learned anything in all these years?
Honestly, he's coming across as controlling and stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reason for wanting you to convert?

He had bought into the marketing and fear. Her DH is worried for her soul.

OP: this, pretty much.

Religion is very personal. Meh doesn't have responsibility for your soul; you do. Tell him to back off. He is way out of bounds.

I think this is bullshit. A family is much more personal than religion. Asking someone to convert from Jew to Islam to Athiest to Christian is one thing. Anglican to Catholic is a small thing for family unity.

Anglican to Catholic would be a big deal to me. No one gets to pressure anyone else on religious matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol. one believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the other believes Jesus is the son of God and follows the new testament. the masses are essentially identical, as both date to the Nicene council.

One is Catholic. The other is Catholic after Henry VIII wanted a divorce but didn't want to go all Martin Luther or John Calvin.

The Church of England had substantial theological differences prior to that.

Yes, the masses are essentially identical, which is why my DH assumed I'd have no issues becoming RC. That does not mean the beliefs are the same, however similarly we worship.

-OP

you going off to one church on Sunday while your husband goes to another one is not going to make for a healthy marriage. that is stupid. A church is supposed to be a community. One of you needs to compromise.

or you should both just go episcopalian or lutheran. IT IS ALL THE SAME THING. Just read the friggin bible and stop obsessing over silly differences created by old white guys in the 1500s and 1600s.

If it were ALL THE SAME THING, her husband would not be pressuring her.

Maybe he should go to her church. You know, since they are all the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should have said before that we do generally attend my church, so all the comments about us going separately are wrong. It's also been over 15 years since I attended any other church, so I'm not church hopping.

I just feel badly that whenever I tell him it's not going to happen, it ends up becoming a fight.

What is said during the fight? I'm not going to do it is a pretty solid answer I would think! I assume you've already told him why- so what else is there to say? I agree with the other PP's that something else might be going on with him.
If he just insists that he's worried about your soul tell him that since he thinks you are going to hell, he better just make the most
of his time with you here