Help me stop talking to him

[Anonymous]

Long story short I was with a guy that I fell head over heals for and he dumped me out of nowhere. He has done many things to humiliate me since then and it needs to stop. Any words of wisdom, encouragement?

[Anonymous]

Don't be a dumbass. delete his number, block.it, etc.

[Anonymous]

Change YOUR number if you don't have good self control. Tell others you had to change it because someone was harassing you.

[Anonymous]

He's married. Move on. Consider yourself lucky.

[Anonymous]

you won't get over it until you find another alpha. you will always pine for him otherwise.

[Anonymous]

From time to time I see these types of posts on helping people to not do this or not do that, and I really wish I could wave a magic wand or sprinkle some fairy dust on your situation, but we live in the real world and in the real world sometimes we just have to learn to practice self-control all on our own.

Trust me...I have been in your shoes many a times. I have felt completely powerless over my insane behavior toward guys who treated me like sh#*. Sometimes I felt like something must be completely "off" with me mentally because I couldn't leave people alone who would continue to abuse me, lie to me and like you, humiliate me over and over.

But nothing anyone else can do or say can help you. Only YOU can help YOU.

So you need to learn how to control yourself. Plain and simple.

Whether it be taping a Post-it to your cell phone w/the message, "Don't call the lying Son of a Bitch!!" (Yes, I had to do that once!!) or making a list of all the incidents where he hurt me and referring to it every time I wanted to reach out to him, do whatever works for you.

Everyone has their own solution(s) to curbing their urge(s) to communicate w/someone toxic, you just need to figure out what will work for you.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Figure out why you are drawn to the same particular pain again and again - it's not just about this guy, it goes deeper and until you focus your energy on understanding and healing yourself, you will be vulnerable to traveling the same well-worn path that brings you only heartache.

Also, in the short-term, thing of him as an addiction, like cocaine, that you need to quit cold turkey. Do block his number, etc - and know that whatever quick-fix you get from being with him will leave you right back where you are right now, only worse; he is a dead end.

[Anonymous]

Stop harassing the poor guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From time to time I see these types of posts on helping people to not do this or not do that, and I really wish I could wave a magic wand or sprinkle some fairy dust on your situation, but we live in the real world and in the real world sometimes we just have to learn to practice self-control all on our own.

Trust me...I have been in your shoes many a times. I have felt completely powerless over my insane behavior toward guys who treated me like sh#*. Sometimes I felt like something must be completely "off" with me mentally because I couldn't leave people alone who would continue to abuse me, lie to me and like you, humiliate me over and over.

But nothing anyone else can do or say can help you. Only YOU can help YOU.

So you need to learn how to control yourself. Plain and simple.

Whether it be taping a Post-it to your cell phone w/the message, "Don't call the lying Son of a Bitch!!" (Yes, I had to do that once!!) or making a list of all the incidents where he hurt me and referring to it every time I wanted to reach out to him, do whatever works for you.

Everyone has their own solution(s) to curbing their urge(s) to communicate w/someone toxic, you just need to figure out what will work for you.

Good luck.

Thank you PP for the encouragement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you won't get over it until you find another alpha. you will always pine for him otherwise.

I hope you find the alpha you are desperately pining for PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you won't get over it until you find another alpha. you will always pine for him otherwise.

I hope you find the alpha you are desperately pining for PP

[Anonymous]

I think it would help if we know how old you both are, how long you dated, why you broke up, and what he has done to " humiliate" you. This will make me understand and give the best opinion I can. Keep your head up in the meantime, OP.

[Anonymous]

I've been in a similar situation and I think it helps to give yourself small milestones. Like I won't call him for 4 hours. And then start over. Then reward yourself. Also it wouldn't hurt to try some online dating to keep your mind off him and potentially meet someone new! Good luck and look to the new year for new beginnings!!

[Anonymous]

OP here I am starting off the new year by deleting him completely from my phone. I have no way to contact him again.

Doesn't really matter what he did to humiliate me, but it is time for me to move on and forget about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From time to time I see these types of posts on helping people to not do this or not do that, and I really wish I could wave a magic wand or sprinkle some fairy dust on your situation, but we live in the real world and in the real world sometimes we just have to learn to practice self-control all on our own.

Trust me...I have been in your shoes many a times. I have felt completely powerless over my insane behavior toward guys who treated me like sh#*. Sometimes I felt like something must be completely "off" with me mentally because I couldn't leave people alone who would continue to abuse me, lie to me and like you, humiliate me over and over.

But nothing anyone else can do or say can help you. Only YOU can help YOU.

So you need to learn how to control yourself. Plain and simple.

Whether it be taping a Post-it to your cell phone w/the message, "Don't call the lying Son of a Bitch!!" (Yes, I had to do that once!!) or making a list of all the incidents where he hurt me and referring to it every time I wanted to reach out to him, do whatever works for you.

Everyone has their own solution(s) to curbing their urge(s) to communicate w/someone toxic, you just need to figure out what will work for you.

Good luck.

Thank you PP for the encouragement

You're very welcome.

New Year = Out w/the old...In w/the new!