How to get away from a VERY shallow couple in the social circle that just got married and pregnant

[Anonymous]

SOOO, short story long. There is a couple (but through the woman, let's call her Jane for the story) that my girlfriend is friends with who I never thought to much of, she started dating a guy a while back who made them tolerable (for a time).

They moved in with one another, got married this summer, and are expecting their first kid. Most of the social circle is moving in that direction. My girlfriend likes to run with Jane and do Yoga. The problem is that although Jane is average in looks and personality (but good figure), PhD but talking to her is like talking to a potted plant - Jane thinks she walks on water. She married a very good looking man who is 5 or 6 years younger than her (and we all think is gay - he literally has a room of shoes, SHOES! And he is not gay?). She completely controls him and the whole group. She shuts down or shuts out those that do not sync up with her.

Over time I have watched the now husband turn as shallow as her. They focus on looks - talk about this baby only in terms of it being the "best looking baby ever" - surround themselves with horribly vapid people who constantly focus on looks. (I shit you not, but her facebook page consists of all her friends telling her constantly how beautiful she is). For example -- Their wedding was really beautiful but Jane wore a lacey trashy type dress and looked straight out of Dynasty and yet the hanger ons told her she was beautiful. I actually asked my girlfriend if she really thought that and she said it is what Jane finds important and no one really believes what they are telling her.

I dread going out with them. I try to talk to my girlfriend about it because it is getting to the point I don't want to go out with my girlfriend when her friends (particulary Jane and her in the closet husband) are there. I have watched Jane be dumped by a few of the other friends who were the ones that I actually enjoyed being around (smart, caring, good people, that were not focused on themselves). In the beginning the husband had some really cool friends that I met briefly but they seem to have dropped the couple as well. I got the impression that they thought little of Jane and less of him for marrying her.

So, if I want to take my girlfriend to the next level... (propose/marriage) How do I get rid of the shallow, selfish, narcissitic group. I think it is a terrible influence and I hate, hate, hate hearing about them and their lives. I never had met people that could be so terribly shallow before.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP. Do them a favor and drop out of the group. I sure as hell wouldn't want to know you.

[Anonymous]

You sound much worse than them. And like a high school girl. I hope this isn't real.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I'd try to cultivate some new friendships on your own and bring your girlfriend around them. If you can't drop Jane's social circle completely, at least you guys can have another one as well.
But the big factor here is your girlfriend- does she genuinely like Jane? Because if she doesn't want to drop the friendship you might be kind of out of luck.

[Anonymous]

Says a lot about your girlfriend if these are her friends OP

[Anonymous]

unless you have to hang out with them every day, who cares?

[Anonymous]

You sound like a woman. Seriously.

Want to get rid of them? Tell your GF how you feel and that you'd prefer not to be around Jane and her gay husband.

Problem solved. Man up.

[Anonymous]

You sound like the shallow, vapid, and possibly closeted one.

[Anonymous]

Lol going to agree with everyone here. You sound awful OP.

[Anonymous]

you sound young and dumb. you take your relationship to the next level and do what you both want to do. period. don't worry about what other people say or do.

[Anonymous]

Are you a man, OP? A man referencing "Dynasty" and writing a post like this? My goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a woman. Seriously.

Want to get rid of them? Tell your GF how you feel and that you'd prefer not to be around Jane and her gay husband.

Problem solved. Man up.

This. I got to the last few lines of your post and realized you were a dude.

I don't believe this post. No man thinks about shit like this.

[Anonymous]

It's not really mature for you to be so focused on these people. Be polite to them, and focus on yourself and your significant other.

[Anonymous]

Jealous much OP?

Oh and trash talking behind people's backs makes you a good judge of character? If I had a frien who made the shoe comment and the wedding dress comment to me, I'd be looking for a new friend. I don't surround myself with people like you OP