Double Standards
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My DW seems to have double standards for everyone. She is allowed to do things or behave any way she wants and everyone has to put up with it. As an example, on Friday she was supposed to pick up the kids and I after a holiday party. She was at a work function and supposedly "lost track of time." We called her several times on her cell and she did not pick up. We actually waited one hour and then took a cab home.
I didn't get angry with her when she came home, as I did not think it would be too productive. However, this leaves me thinking about how to approach this with her so that she will hear what I say. The double standard comes in yesterday when we had plans for her to pick me up at work and go with the kids to get a Christmas tree. She had asked our oldest daughter to prepare the corner for the tree. When we came home, we found that she did not do this. DW lose her sh*t and starts screaming and yelling and the two of them go at it. Pretty soon, both girls are crying and no one wants to go get the tree. This morning, DW continues on about how everyone sees her as the "bitch" while we are all angels. I drop her off at work and she demands I pick her up "on time." I bit my tongue after Friday, but I so wanted to give a piece of my mind. Any thoughts on this? She regularly loses her sh*t with me and the kids and is way over the top. She called my oldest a "stupid pig" last night, and I had to step in and ask her to leave the house. There is later always some excuse - her period, a bad day at work, etc. For me, she is basically an abuser. Does anyone see this as well? |
MikeL
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Calling her daughter a stupid pig is not okay.
She needs to go to counseling. |
Anonymous
| Yes OP, I believe she is an abuser as well. Counseling could help get to the bottom of what's behind her behavior. |
Anonymous
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Yup. Counseling. If she won't go, you can go and get ideas how to handle her behavior in a healthy way.
I lose my temper, too, although no name calling. But I know I'm wrong and admit it. I'd also be super upset if my husband didn't come pick me up (relatively) on time. If you can't depend on your spouse, who can you depend on? |
Anonymous
| She sounds rather toxic. I'd gave her an ultimatum. She gets counseling to clean up her act, or you file for divorce and custody. She is verbally abusing your daughter and that's not acceptable. |
Anonymous
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Abuser is a big word that gets thrown around on this forum, both make and female , pretty readily.
Depends in this is a one time problem or if it's an ongoing behaviour. I know what you're saying happened recently, but it takes more than that to assess. She sounds like she may be depressed, overwhelmed, Eric, councelling or so e psychiatric help sounds in order at the least. You. At need to start to formulate an exit plan, if this is her normal state of being. Male or female, anyone causing this kind of crP in the house is a problem. |
Anonymous
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Counseling. You also need to document these outbursts and begin to make a plan to divorce, if necessary, and fight like hell for your children.
I don't know what your financials are like, but start to look through this stuff and be prepared to call her bluff if she doesn't take counseling seriously and that you will divorce her and seek primary custody because it is in the welfare for your children. It might be help to get her to admit to some of the things she said in email. Frame it like you want to talk about the issue but get her to come clean in writing. That may help in the long run. |
Anonymous
| you're a pussy with an entitled wife. your pussiness enforces her bad behavior. |
Anonymous
+1 -- you need to call her out on the double standard ... not bite your tongue! |
Anonymous
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Are you the same poster who comes on this board regularly posting about his abusive wife? You have at least one teenage daughter, correct?
Why on earth have you not left her yet? Did you not get enough validation that her behavior is inappropriate the last time you came on her to vent about her horrible treatment of you?? |
Anonymous
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Sorry, but if you believe staying silent is the way to handle your bitch of a wife, you are an enable. Or, you know, a pussy like the other poster wrote.
How long have you been a cuck? |
Anonymous
| She sounds like a miserable bitch. I'd leave that cunt in a heartbeat. |
Anonymous
But he is a giant pussy. Staying silent. Probably licks her to orgasm wondering what that strange taste is (another man's seed still inside her). |
Anonymous
True. The whole she being really late to pick him up after a work party and not answering the phone points to her having a side piece. |
Anonymous
Exactly but, you know, why bother starting a fight.... LOL. |