Double Standards

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Exactly but, you know, why bother starting a fight.... LOL.

Yup.

And then one day she'll come home: "I'm not happy". He'll bend over backwards trying to improve things. She won't do shit. They'll finally split up. Then after a few months of blaming himself, a light bulb will go off and he'll see how he was brainwashed by a cunt for years.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a big believer in the alpha/beta labels being thrown around but, if ever someone wanted to use a "beta" label, it's this guy. I mean, he fits the cliche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DW seems to have double standards for everyone. She is allowed to do things or behave any way she wants and everyone has to put up with it. As an example, on Friday she was supposed to pick up the kids and I after a holiday party. She was at a work function and supposedly "lost track of time." We called her several times on her cell and she did not pick up. We actually waited one hour and then took a cab home.

I didn't get angry with her when she came home, as I did not think it would be too productive. However, this leaves me thinking about how to approach this with her so that she will hear what I say. The double standard comes in yesterday when we had plans for her to pick me up at work and go with the kids to get a Christmas tree. She had asked our oldest daughter to prepare the corner for the tree. When we came home, we found that she did not do this. DW lose her sh*t and starts screaming and yelling and the two of them go at it. Pretty soon, both girls are crying and no one wants to go get the tree.

This morning, DW continues on about how everyone sees her as the "bitch" while we are all angels. I drop her off at work and she demands I pick her up "on time." I bit my tongue after Friday, but I so wanted to give a piece of my mind.

Any thoughts on this? She regularly loses her sh*t with me and the kids and is way over the top. She called my oldest a "stupid pig" last night, and I had to step in and ask her to leave the house. There is later always some excuse - her period, a bad day at work, etc. For me, she is basically an abuser. Does anyone see this as well?

Classic archetype of an abuser plain and simple. Whether physical, emotional, verbal, the blame is always on the victim for this atrocious behavior. How do I know this? I was in this but it has become less and less because I stand fast and draw lines. She is a bully. She is an abuser. I am sorry to say, but classically this translates to her having an affair as well, but placing the blame square on you.

I am not sure she loves anyone to be honest, if what you have written is the truth and the whole truth for all intents and purposes. You were wright to step in, protect your daughter. I am also afraid that she has irreparably damaged her relationship with her daughters.

If this was a guy, I'd say he needs his ass kicked. but in reality, you need to get your legal shit in order and document this. Yeah, you'll have to deal with a breakdown from her, and she'll plead as if she is the victim. Record this behavior and show her why you have to leave. Im sorry you married such a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a big believer in the alpha/beta labels being thrown around but, if ever someone wanted to use a "beta" label, it's this guy. I mean, he fits the cliche.

Fuck you and your beta shit. I dont even know where to begin with how flawed this mentality is. You should commend him for kicking her ass out of the house and standing up for the daughter.

Your reading skills are beta as is your intelligence. Second thought, more like omega you dumb ass.