Would you be annoyed about this or is it not a big deal?

[Anonymous]

My parents hosted thanksgiving dinner at their house and invited my in-laws (they live about 45 mins away) who came. My in-laws decided to have a brunch at their house over the weekend. They didn't invite my parents. I wouldn't have thought twice about it except my MIL specifically said that she wanted to invite my parents but FIL thought it would be nicer to "have just the young people." Again, fine. But when we went they had actually also invited another family friend who is MIL/FIL's age. So it wasn't "just the young people." It probably doesn't help that I really don't like this friend. She's gone out of her way to be unpleasant to me and my family over the years so it adds to my annoyance. FWIW I'm not annoyed that they didn't incitr my parents. I'm annoyed they told me it was because they wanted it to be just us and then they invited someone else anyway.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. Do your parents and in-laws really want to get together twice in one weekend? Probably not.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sure that you're the only one concerned about this. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents hosted thanksgiving dinner at their house and invited


VERY annoyed.

[Anonymous]

I always ask myself if my parents had done the same thing if I would be annoyed. I wouldn't get annoyed at my parents for this so my MIL would get a much needed pass.

[Anonymous]

You're being petty, OP. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents hosted thanksgiving dinner at their house and invited my in-laws (they live about 45 mins away) who came. My in-laws decided to have a brunch at their house over the weekend. They didn't invite my parents. I wouldn't have thought twice about it except my MIL specifically said that she wanted to invite my parents but FIL thought it would be nicer to "have just the young people." Again, fine. But when we went they had actually also invited another family friend who is MIL/FIL's age. So it wasn't "just the young people." It probably doesn't help that I really don't like this friend. She's gone out of her way to be unpleasant to me and my family over the years so it adds to my annoyance. FWIW I'm not annoyed that they didn't incitr my parents. I'm annoyed they told me it was because they wanted it to be just us and then they invited someone else anyway.

Just stop. It's their house, and they can invite whomever they want for whatever reason. Perhaps they planned to have "just the young people" but then they later found out that this person was alone and wanted to invite her. Or maybe she invited herself and your ILs are polite and gracious enough to never badmouth someone. Who knows? The bottom line is that it's none of your business as a guest to question the host about another guest like this.

Surely there are more important things going on in the world than this?

[Anonymous]

If I were your spouse and you complained about this I'd be annoyed that you were being a PITA daughter-in-law.

[Anonymous]

Good lord OP. Two get-togethers with parents and in-laws in four days? Do you imagine they want to spend that much time together? Unless they regularly socialize in the same circle, I can't imagine how you could take umbrage on your parents' behalf. Your annoyance is baffling.

[Anonymous]

You can't force someone to invite others. They hosted, they get to choose whom to invite. And they don't owe you an explanation for it.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed, definitely. But I am touchy about reciprocity these days. I wouldn't say anything, and I wouldn't stew over it. But it's OK to be annoyed at this little peek of what your in-laws are like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be annoyed, definitely. But I am touchy about reciprocity these days. I wouldn't say anything, and I wouldn't stew over it. But it's OK to be annoyed at this little peek of what your in-laws are like.

Reciprocity means OP's parents get invited next year or on the next major life-cycle event (Christmas, Easter, etc.) It doesn't mean they are invited to every shindig the in-laws host until the end of time.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed.

[Anonymous]

I would try to assume they added the family friend into the mix after inviting you. Or else when she said just the young people, she meant just the young people from your family. Either way, let it go unless your parents are hankering after more time with your in-laws. Are they?

[Anonymous]

I think you're more annoyed at having to spend time with the person you don't really like that much than the fact that your parents weren't invited. If your IL's family friend is so unpleasant to you, then sure your annoyance is legitimate, but it's about that person not the absence of your parents.