I am DONE cooking for my family

[Anonymous]

Whenever I put some effort into making a meal around here, no one eats it. The kids pick at their food and complain about everything that isn't a chicken nugget or french fry. My husband is the worst. The last couple Sundays, I plan a nice Sunday night dinner and he stops to pick up food for the kids after practice, because they "were starving". I am so tired of putting forth effort for these ingrates. I am done. They are getting stuff out of cans and boxes and the freezer from now on.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for sharing. I hope you feel better.

[Anonymous]

You and everybody else!

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[Anonymous]

Reached this conclusion years ago (have a FTT child who then had aversions). Decided that there are way better ways to spend time together than by having dinner each day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I put some effort into making a meal around here, no one eats it. The kids pick at their food and complain about everything that isn't a chicken nugget or french fry. My husband is the worst. The last couple Sundays, I plan a nice Sunday night dinner and he stops to pick up food for the kids after practice, because they "were starving". I am so tired of putting forth effort for these ingrates. I am done. They are getting stuff out of cans and boxes and the freezer from now on.

You have my sympathy op! I never hear a thank you or a compliment on what I cook for my dh. My ds usually compliments my cooking or at least lets me know he appreciates it, but my dh is just a jerk and never says anything. I ask what stuff I should cook before I shop for groceries and he will say something so stupid like "rice". Ok, that's helpful..

I don't think he hates my cooking because he eats it, but it would be nice to hear a thank you, or to tell me what things I cook well so I know what to make.

[Anonymous]

Throw a hot pocket in front of them and tell them to knock themselves out.

Cook lovely things for yourself. Enjoy the flavor and nourishment.

[Anonymous]

I would read my husband the riot act if he gave the children more than a snack after practice, knowing that dinner was scheduled after that. That is so disrespectful. If he wants to tell you that your cooking leaves to be desired, he should just have the courage to say it!

Most of the time I cook from scratch and DH and the kids appreciate it. Occasionally I make something that two of them like and the third one doesn't - but hey, that's family meals for you.

[Anonymous]

cook for yourself. pb&j for the rest of 'em!

[Anonymous]

OP, you have my sympathy, also. Our children are easier than my DH - who grew up eating about five of the blandest, plainest dishes imaginable, in rotation. All of which revolved around potatoes. My family loves cooking, eating, gathering, talking....you get the picture. Talk about a culture shock!

Mil would be dying to say something nasty like "maybe its my cooking" (she is nasty blooded like that)- but I have gotten so many genuine compliments on certain dishes. It seems sad to not have the ability or willingness to enjoy meals together.

BTW, DH will not TOUCH potatoes! And let's just say, I've had MIL's cooking....

There is much to say for how someone is raised, OP.

[Anonymous]

Cooking is a waste of time and energy. And then there's the clean up, ugh! I throw some chicken or fish in the oven and a bag of vegetables in the microwave to steam. Sometimes rice or pasta to go with it. I will occasionally make a stew or soup soup (that only I eat, kids won't touch). That's the extent of my cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Throw a hot pocket in front of them and tell them to knock themselves out.

Cook lovely things for yourself. Enjoy the flavor and nourishment.

Who the f does this? Dirtying a bunch of dishes and wasting ingredients to cook one portion for one person? That is ridiculous advice.

[Anonymous]

My mom cooked daily and we hated it often. But over all the years, we ended up liking a good portion of it. I know there's little satisfaction each day, but over the long haul you are expanding their palates and modeling how to eat healthfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Throw a hot pocket in front of them and tell them to knock themselves out.

Cook lovely things for yourself. Enjoy the flavor and nourishment.

Who the f does this? Dirtying a bunch of dishes and wasting ingredients to cook one portion for one person? That is ridiculous advice.

Well, single people for one (or did you not eat before DH came along?). And people who enjoy well put together meals, even if their family does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom cooked daily and we hated it often. But over all the years, we ended up liking a good portion of it. I know there's little satisfaction each day, but over the long haul you are expanding their palates and modeling how to eat healthfully.

This is true- I hate cooking too and have one picky eater that just can ruin a meal. But I also refuse to feed all of us chicken nuggets and pizza so damn it, I will find a way! My one picky eater at age one only ate nuggets and fish sticks, it took me a year to turn that into a homemade fish stick (same form factor)- now he can eat pad thai (in my modified version- no green items and no sprouts).. I guess I refuse to give us selfishly since I refuse to eat the same dumb items round and round. My daughter enjoys new foods and gets excited so I have two different kids. One is thriving more than the other- so I am not giving up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Throw a hot pocket in front of them and tell them to knock themselves out.

Cook lovely things for yourself. Enjoy the flavor and nourishment.

Who the f does this? Dirtying a bunch of dishes and wasting ingredients to cook one portion for one person? That is ridiculous advice.

I will make myself a nice meal, happily do the dishes and savor the leftovers, thanks.

You enjoy Applebees or Chipotle or whatever passes for food in your house.