
changed three poopy diapers
gotten up with the kids to feed them while H (notice no D) slept given everyone cards and little gifts and got nothing back - no card even asked if I could take a shower and got a grumpy "fine!" as an answer....... someone please tell me I am not the only one Misery loves company |
Sorry PP but I have to say that Valentine's Day is just another day... It sucks because you seem to have had some expectations but really, it is just a commercialized holiday. I am not saying this to be mean at all. I am saying it because it really is just another day and all the media hype builds it up to be some fabulous day. Go hop in the shower and relax. Take care of yourself and don't let what your husband does bother you. |
Better yet, OP, just leave the house for a few hours after your shower and go for a walk, or get your nails done. |
I hadn't noticed it was valentines day until you brought it up.
If you are going to have expectations on the day, give your family fair warning days before. And, keep it between you and your husband. It isn't about everyone, but about romantic love. |
PP, are you kidding?!!? Sorry this happened OP. You were thoughtful enough to get little gifts for everyone. They should have at least gotten you a card. And, no, you shouldn't have to detail these expectations for your family beforehand. You sound like a thoughtful person, and I'm sorry people aren't thoughtful in return.
Happy Valentine's Day. Truly, I hope it gets better. |
Sour V-Day in this household as well - dont feel bad.
I did get a gift that I picked out - not because he was "thinking" of me - more out of habit of gift giving. I did not get a kiss even until I made a big stink out of how VDay just really sux. Too much pressure to be lovely dovey when apparently there is no more romance in our marriage. Is it just me or after 10 years do we turn into our parents? I am so sad about this. Other than the "romance" and "passion" gone - I am happy with the marriage. |
wow. this woman comes on DCUM for a little solidarity and understanding and this is what she gets?? OP. You're right. It stinks. V-day or not. You need to tell that man you're taking a shower; don't ask. After you've been up with the kids, wiping butts, he can help out now. |
Happy Valentine's Day to you all.
My DH is out of town until tomorrow. So, I'm treating my 3 DCs to the bookstore and treating myself to Starbucks. Then after I clean this messy, messy house and go grocery shopping, we'll have some cake, maybe a tea party with the little one. Then when they are all in bed, I plan to watch chic flix while pampering myself. At the very least, do something nice for yourselves today! |
Sorry OP and disappointed PPs. I know how it is. See if you can find an opportunity to do at least one little thing that makes you feel a little better. |
For me Mother's Day is the new Valentine's Day! So we usually don't go crazy for V-Day but at least acknowledge it and he does something corny and sweet. Nothing this year. But, I was pregnant last Mother's Day and he totally unexpectedly made it really special. Now that we have the baby he BETTER do it again this year for Mother's Day!
So in exchange for the romantic holiday I get the mommy holiday. Things have changed but can't complain (too much). But OP I'm sorry if the day is bumming you out. I agree with the others - do something nice for yourself! |
Come on, Valentines Day is a Hallmark holiday completely commercialized by the media and retail stores. True caring and love should be shown on a daily basis, not on a day marked for spending money. |
Our VDay has new meaning the last few years since our DD was born today! So, we make it more about her today than about each other.
However, this year we also had incentive to make it about us as well. I feel kind of guilty, but this morning we put in a movie downstairs for DD and had some mommy & daddy "time" ![]() The rest of the day has been about DD though and we are going to dinner tonight for her BDay. I hope everyone has a better day and I echo the suggestion to do something nice for yourself. |
True caring and love can always be shown without spending money...even on Valentine's Day. My nephew--on his own--poured a bowl of cereal for my sister with a sign that said "for mommy." That is probably one of the sweetest Valentines ever.
It is true that the day has been commercialized, but that can be said of every other holiday as well. In the day to day we often get so caught up with life that we forget to show true love and caring. It doesn't hurt to take an extra moment to acknowledge those you love and care for on Valentine's Day. I'm sure that was all OP was looking for. I hope her family shapes up and gives it to her. |
I have a pissed off husband. He always seems to get moody on any type of holiday, and ruin them. I figure this stems from some psychological issue with his mother.
I got two hugs and two kisses from my beautiful children, as a thank you for their valentines. |
Are we married to the same man? Mine walked out the door muttering under his breath, "good job, you managed to ruin another wonderful weekend together". So, he's off to the gym and to do whatever he wants without even telling me where he's going or when he'll be back. I'm sorry but my history of Valentine's Day has been dismal since marrying him. He always manages to find me cards that say everything but "I love you". This year, it was a cat and a mouse on the cover and inside it said, "It's Valentine's Day. Anything is possible." Last year, it was a similar card reading "Our relationship is strange and wonderful. You're strange and I'm wonderful. Happy V-Day." PP, how is your DH's moodiness stemming from his mother? Just curious b/c mine has a weird dynamic with his mom too. |