Happy AND Single....Am I Normal?

[Anonymous]

I am and have been single the past ten years or so after a terrible three-year relationship ended on really bad terms.

Sure, I have dated casually and have had my flings every now + then (because I can), but overall I am truly content w/being single.

I have a full life and am satisfied w/how it is.

My children have all grown up and flown the coop, I have my home to myself which is nice after raising children for the past two decades. I come home after work every day to a nice, clean, quiet and peaceful place of solace. I don't have to deal w/any stress from anyone in my personal space which is a relief in itself.

I love my job and I also do volunteer work on the side which fulfills me as well.

I have many friends so I never feel lonely or isolated. When I feel the need for companionship, I know I can always call a friend and meet for lunch or a movie.

When I feel the need to just be alone, I have many hobbies I enjoy doing. I love to read, write, take long walks outdoors and visit museums.

People constantly are trying to either set me up w/some guy they know or are encouraging me to visit this or that online dating site. When I tell them I am good the way I am, they say it is a shame that someone as pretty and smart as me would spend the rest of my life all alone. As if that is so bad.

I honestly feel like my life is complete the way it is now. I am satisfied and fulfilled 100%. I seriously do not feel like there is anything missing in my life now. No missing pieces whatsoever.

Am I weird....??!

[Anonymous]

So you are asexual?

You aren't weird, but the no sex part is a lifestyle deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds dreamy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you are asexual?

You aren't weird, but the no sex part is a lifestyle deal breaker for me.

No, when I need sex, I do have people to contact to have flings with. So the physical aspect is taken care of.

It's just the companionship part that I don't need.

I like living alone. And for some odd reason, I do not envy other women who live with their significant others.

[Anonymous]

Normal! If you're happy with your life, don't worry about fitting in with the norm.

[Anonymous]

Me, too! I just adopted, too--made me even happier.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

You're normal.

[Anonymous]

Hitachi Magic Wand, I assume?

[Anonymous]

This is me. My DC is really all I need and want right now. I am an introvert and being around people all day is tiring.

[Anonymous]

I miss being single, TBH. I love my DH, BUT I really enjoyed my single years. We met when we were a bit older so these weren't rip roaring 20s single years. They we're go to yoga and learn to knit years. I've often thought that if something ever happened to DH and I, I likely would not get into another relationship EVER.

So if you're abnormal, know there is a percentage of abnormal out there.

[Anonymous]

If you're happy where you are, you're fine. Just be aware that there are many people who are not happy in whatever status they're in. I'm currently single with full custody of a child. I very much am tired of being single and have neither the opportunity nor inclination for random hookups or friends with benefits. I'm and introvert, and I find large scale socializing draining.

I want to come home to another grownup and do couple things and have sex with someone I love. I'm perfectly happy in my own skin, but I'm lonely. And I think it only gets worse when you get older - 30 and single? Sure, fabulous. 65 and single? Just who do you think is going to be there for you if they aren't there already? Many of my friends are single and older, and it's not pretty. They claim to be happy-ish, but they're scared. They get a pain and they think they're dying and will be found in a month, with their pet.

I do not believe in having just anyone around just to say you are in a relationship, but the right someone is much preferable to no one.

[Anonymous]

Hi, Excessive Punctuation and Italics Troll. Yes, you're weird because you insist on trolling DCUM with your click-bait titles, changing your story or just making something up every time. I have a hard time believing you are really that content and happy if you invest so much time and energy in pretending to be different people in an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Well, if this is a troll s/he has imagined one form that a perfect life can take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, if this is a troll s/he has imagined one form that a perfect life can take.

Yep, OP definitely has a very active imagination!
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/395653.page
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/389672.page