Happy AND Single....Am I Normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is me. My DC is really all I need and want right now. I am an introvert and being around people all day is tiring.

i don't think this is normal.

[Anonymous]

not normal, even for under 30. Sounds like some type of mental problem or traumatic past.

[Anonymous]

If you're happy and your actions aren't hurting others than it doesn't matter if you're "normal." Sounds like you have a good setup!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on finding contentment. In a world full of complaints and profound dissatisfaction, it's refreshing to hear someone embrace the life they have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is me. My DC is really all I need and want right now. I am an introvert and being around people all day is tiring.

i don't think this is normal.

Plus 1. I could have said these exact words exactly. And I consider myself (relatively) normal!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, if this is a troll s/he has imagined one form that a perfect life can take.

Yep, OP definitely has a very active imagination!
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/395653.page
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/389672.page

OK, how much time do you have (or spend on here) where you can dig up a thread from July and post it?? Do you collect similar postings for all anonymous posters? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Am I weird....??!

Yes, the fact that you have to ask DCUM? But, I think you already know this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am and have been single the past ten years or so after a terrible three-year relationship ended on really bad terms.

Sure, I have dated casually and have had my flings every now + then (because I can), but overall I am truly content w/being single.

I have a full life and am satisfied w/how it is.

My children have all grown up and flown the coop, I have my home to myself which is nice after raising children for the past two decades. I come home after work every day to a nice, clean, quiet and peaceful place of solace. I don't have to deal w/any stress from anyone in my personal space which is a relief in itself.

I love my job and I also do volunteer work on the side which fulfills me as well.

I have many friends so I never feel lonely or isolated. When I feel the need for companionship, I know I can always call a friend and meet for lunch or a movie.

When I feel the need to just be alone, I have many hobbies I enjoy doing. I love to read, write, take long walks outdoors and visit museums.

People constantly are trying to either set me up w/some guy they know or are encouraging me to visit this or that online dating site. When I tell them I am good the way I am, they say it is a shame that someone as pretty and smart as me would spend the rest of my life all alone. As if that is so bad.

I honestly feel like my life is complete the way it is now. I am satisfied and fulfilled 100%. I seriously do not feel like there is anything missing in my life now. No missing pieces whatsoever.

Am I weird....??!

When I saw the title of your post, I thought "I bet OP was in something crummy before and is free now."

Let me put out there this idea (and PPs, I'm curious as to what you think)--I think the state of OP is only achievable if one has either been in some crappy situation (like OP), or has been in a good situation for a long time and so "that part" of their life is over. Regarding the second part, my situation is I'm in a 17 year great marriage. If DH were to die or if the marriage ended somehow, after the horror of the loss of him/the marriage was over, I'd be "done" and set myself up with the little cottage with the cats and be happy being single.

I think it's much harder if one has never had a crummy love situation, or a long played out good love situation, to be content single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, if this is a troll s/he has imagined one form that a perfect life can take.

Yep, OP definitely has a very active imagination!
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/395653.page
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/389672.page

OK, how much time do you have (or spend on here) where you can dig up a thread from July and post it?? Do you collect similar postings for all anonymous posters? Serious question.

Since you asked, it took about 10 seconds using the search function on this site. Those threads stuck in my mind because they were so odd and OP has a very distinctive posting style. I have a hard time taking her seriously since most of her posts tend to be contradictory/inflammatory (i.e., trolling), and she never posts responses to questions. If this post is legitimate this time, then I'm very happy for OP that she's found contentment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you are asexual?

You aren't weird, but the no sex part is a lifestyle deal breaker for me.

No, when I need sex, I do have people to contact to have flings with. So the physical aspect is taken care of.

It's just the companionship part that I don't need.

I like living alone. And for some odd reason, I do not envy other women who live with their significant others.

I don't have casual sex, so again that would be a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is me. My DC is really all I need and want right now. I am an introvert and being around people all day is tiring.

i don't think this is normal.

Plus 1. I could have said these exact words exactly. And I consider myself (relatively) normal!!

Being an introvert isn't normal? How about this. Try being a single parent 24/7/365. Now, you don't have money like it seems like most posters on DCUMs have. You make $30K or so. You work 10 hrs a day and spend 2 hrs commuting. After you put your child to bed, if you sit down, you'll never get back up. Bone tired is an expression you know well. I honestly do not have the energy for anyone else which is fine b/c I've been around people all day and can't wait for the hour or two at night I get to myself. It's funny that I feel quite normal. Just tired beyond belief (I don't have a cushy desk job either).

[Anonymous]

Totally normal! I have a ton of friends and love my husband and young children but have always been happy by myself. My MIL just got divorced and she is so depressed but I keep telling her she's living the dream! Older out of the house kids, disposable income, your time to spend how ever you want? HEAVEN! Enjoy it OP!! Sooooo normal and so awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Congratulations on finding contentment. In a world full of complaints and profound dissatisfaction, it's refreshing to hear someone embrace the life they have.

Than you.

I am 45 and love peace and quite.

[Anonymous]

To the PP who actually can call someone out for their "distinctive writing style," I must say you do not sound normal.

I come on this forum often, yet I do not think I have the knack that you seem to have for being able to see certain similarities in writing styles between multiple posts.

And if I found that I actually had that knack, that would be a very disturbing sign that maybe, just perhaps I was spending way too much time inside my home, in front of my computer, and away from living and breathing life forms. That maybe I needed to get out of the house more and form un-cyber friendships like "normal" people actually do.

Just saying.