What parts of your life/lifestyle are unapproved by DCUM standards?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-Married at 19 (still happily together — and we had 10 years pre-kids to travel the world/be semi-nomadic/do whatever)
-Several piercings
-Regularly consume American style cheese product
-Libertarian through and through
-Vape THC
-Consume street food including organ meat around the world with abandon (yet only seem to get sick after splurge meals…)

I really could go on, but these are the fun ones off the top of my head.

You are the antidcum!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regularly litter and never return my shopping cart.

Please please stop littering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve hooked up with a 20something from Tinder within less than an hour of matching.

Oh, do tell...

[Anonymous]

- don't have a car because I hate driving
- 15 years together & happily married to hot DH
- all of us happy to live in high rise condo vs house (we never hear our neighbors and it's a really great community)
- love video games and arcades
- also love roller skating
- frequently make up songs to sing to my cat about things he enjoys, like breakfast
- I have an ongoing family musical with my DH where we just break into song
- take my cat for walks on a leash
- take extravagant ($15k+) and fun vacations on a lower 6 figure salary
- if I am ever widowed I would love to team up with sisters, cousins, and/or friends to live like the Golden Girls
- I have brightly colored hair even though I am "way too old" for it
- dislike drinking except for occasional glass of sparkling white wine if it's on the sweet side
- use our wedding china every day, including the cat's dish. We also run it through the dishwasher and it still looks beautiful
- we have taco service shaped like various dinosaurs
- sometimes we like to turn off the lights, light candles, and read spooky stories out loud while eating freshly baked cookies
- our kid is a teen and hasn't ever been on a sports team because none of us liked the idea of giving up weekends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regularly litter and never return my shopping cart.

Please please stop littering.

It keeps people employed picking up trash. I'm doing my part

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve hooked up with a 20something from Tinder within less than an hour of matching.

Oh, do tell...

Reckless abandon. It was amazing, dangerous and would do it again in a heartbeat

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 16yo rising junior does not have a summer job. He's going to a week of space camp, a week of Scouts camp canoeing in Minnesota, a week of family vacation, and then starts his fall sport practice on July 31. In between time will be hanging with his friends or working on his Eagle project.

DCUM seems to think all teens should have a summer job by age 14.

Good for him. Mine doesn't have one and will be doing absolutely nothing.

+1

I let my kids lounge all summer. They were burnt out on camps and no longer had an interest in attending. I took a work from home job (pre-pandemic) and decided to let them have a 1980s summers. They can get a job when they want a job, but I don't push it. They have the rest of their lives to work and study. I let them sleep in, camp out, ride bikes all over, and watch too much tv. They get plenty of activity and have learned to self regulate.

This sounds nice. Wish you were my mom. I had 80s summers but also had to work :-/

[Anonymous]

We live in a suburb/exurb with schools that have poor great school ratings (2)

We travel internationally twice a year

We have a stay at home parent though the kids are all in school

[Anonymous]

We have 5 kids
Had first kid when we were 23 & 24

We are atheists btw and never envisioned that we’d have 5, but I was lucky to have extremely easy pregnancies so we just kept going. Got tubes tied after #5. 17 yr age spread from kid #1 to kid #5.

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I workout in front of my window in my bra and panties.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

You mean the PP who thinks it’s a badge of honor to neglect her daughter?

Oh sure not paying for college for your kid is obvious neglect. What a moron!

In 2023, yes it is, if you want in the slightest for your child to be competitive in life & in the workplace.

Wrongo.

Thousands are entering trade schools and paying for it themselves. Going on believing your brand of BS.

Nobody wants to go to “trade schools” and risk pulling out their back for a living.

Go ahead believing your skreed. Let me know how that works out for you when your plumbing goes in the sh@tter.

And many in nursing school are paying for it themselves and are getting their costs reimbursed when hired.

My paying for his college son anecdotally sees far more kids on parents money wasting their college education than those paying for it themselves.

LOL. Sorry your family is poor. Hopefully it was worth spending his semesters working at McDonald’s while my child did research for a prof.

My father was a professor and I assure you that a teenager will learn much more about the world working at McDonald's than palely loitering in the bowels of the library or washing out test tubes in a freezing research lab.

+1 I am a professor and am a huge believer in teenagers working retail, food service, etc.

Weird.

+1

I was exposed to some real scumbags, both fellow employees & customers, working in chain restaurants as a teen girl. Also, safety issues of working in a public setting like that & having to fend off homeless loiterers.

I will let my kids get summer jobs as teens, but only in very controlled settings (so not a downtown McDonald’s). I mean the snack bar at a local country club or pool. CIT at a day camp, too.

My mom insisted I only apply to certain jobs as a teenager / college student, and now I really appreciate it--she didn't say out loud she was doing this for my safety (I wish she had) but she was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 4 kids

I happily was a SAHM for 14 years before heading back to work AND I make over $150,000 annually now

I breastfed my kids and we had two home births

We homeschooled for a few years

Unvaccinated for COVID as are my kids and husband

We own handguns
Believe that women sports need to be protected and trans people should have their own league

WOW! We are like the polar opposites (except for the annual income). I guess we cancel each other out when voting. Lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve hooked up with a 20something from Tinder within less than an hour of matching.

Oh, do tell...

Reckless abandon. It was amazing, dangerous and would do it again in a heartbeat

How is it dangerous? Why did you pick the 20something?

[Anonymous]

This thread was fun at first and now has just devolved into depressing for many reasons.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- don't have a car because I hate driving
- 15 years together & happily married to hot DH
- all of us happy to live in high rise condo vs house (we never hear our neighbors and it's a really great community)
- love video games and arcades
- also love roller skating
- frequently make up songs to sing to my cat about things he enjoys, like breakfast
- I have an ongoing family musical with my DH where we just break into song
- take my cat for walks on a leash
- take extravagant ($15k+) and fun vacations on a lower 6 figure salary
- if I am ever widowed I would love to team up with sisters, cousins, and/or friends to live like the Golden Girls
- I have brightly colored hair even though I am "way too old" for it
- dislike drinking except for occasional glass of sparkling white wine if it's on the sweet side
- use our wedding china every day, including the cat's dish. We also run it through the dishwasher and it still looks beautiful
- we have taco service shaped like various dinosaurs
- sometimes we like to turn off the lights, light candles, and read spooky stories out loud while eating freshly baked cookies
- our kid is a teen and hasn't ever been on a sports team because none of us liked the idea of giving up weekends

This is 80% stuff that DCUM has no opinions on, just bragging about how fun you are.