S/O Is Your Marriage Better or Worse Post-Kids?

[Anonymous]

Is your marriage in a better place or worse off since you had kids? How/why?

[Anonymous]

Worse. My H became a complete needy mess. He has more emotional needs than an infant. He became jealous of any time I spent with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Worse. Becoming a parent fully revealed my spouse's lazy ass self.

[Anonymous]

Better. Our household balance could be better, but I feel like my husband and I are really on the same team as parents.

[Anonymous]

Worse. Zero sex life and constant exhaustion (twin toddlers).

[Anonymous]

I'll say better. I know him better, and find that seeing him do fatherly shit really turns me on.

[Anonymous]

Better, much better. Not sure why, because this does not seem to be all that common...

[Anonymous]

Worse, just because we're both tired a lot (newborn and toddler). Plus, DH can be pretty childish himself sometimes (though from my friends' stories, this appears to be a common thing with dads? I'd love to know why, for example, he freaks out if he has to have both kids for a few hours, but he thinks he can come home at 11pm because of a networking event a few times a month )

[Anonymous]

It was worse for a while (I had undiagnosed Post Partum depression), but now I think it's really made us appreciate each other, and we work really well as a team. It's been fun to feel like a whole unit, like a real family. I think it's a different feeling than we had before we had a child.

[Anonymous]

Worse. Constant exhaustion. He's an awesome father and husband, but we're too tired to focus on each other.

[Anonymous]

Family is better overall but our marriage is probably slightly worse. Raising kids has brought us together more thoroughly as a couple, and the kids themselves add a whole lot to our lives. But our sex life is much worse than it was pre-kids, and our interactions one-on-one are much more limited.

[Anonymous]

Worse, definitely. Not terrible, mind you, but it was great pre-kid. Now just ok. Kid is still under 2 though.

[Anonymous]

Worse. She transformed into super mom and abandoned our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Worse.

[Anonymous]

Better. We work really well together as parents and it's made us even closer. It's definitely tiring at times but we also have a new source of joy that we get to share. Fwiw, we were together for 7 years before we had a kid.