Previous wife here, how do you treat the TDY wife?

[Anonymous]

All jokes aside. When it's clear the 3rd wife will not be around more than 5 years, what do you do? I'll be polite but I don't want our child getting attached to somebody that is going to leave. Anything I can do?
Our child wasn't a fan of the last wife at all.

[Anonymous]

She may be around a very long time, you sound jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She may be around a very long time, you sound jealous.

Doubtful. Ex is a serial dater. He likes my husband though. You think that's the problem. He likes us and doesn't like all the different women?

[Anonymous]

I didn't understand the post at 19:11.

OP, how much time do you think your child will spend with the new wife?

There's nothing you can do. Your child loves you and your ex-husband, presumably, and can perfectly well become friends with the new wife, even if she doesn't stay long. It's almost like a nanny situation. Children become attached to caregivers, and are sad when they leave.

It does seems as if you are unnecessarily perturbed by all these women.

[Anonymous]

What does TDY mean ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does TDY mean ?

Temporary duty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I didn't understand the post at 19:11.

OP, how much time do you think your child will spend with the new wife?

There's nothing you can do. Your child loves you and your ex-husband, presumably, and can perfectly well become friends with the new wife, even if she doesn't stay long. It's almost like a nanny situation. Children become attached to caregivers, and are sad when they leave.

It does seems as if you are unnecessarily perturbed by all these women.

No the women are lovely. Ex is the annoyance. again, and again, then we also have the girlfriends and mistresses

[Anonymous]

You can't do anything about her retaliation ship with your child. Well, actually you can. If you are neutral/positive about her then maybe your kid will give her a chance and have fun when he visits his father. If you are negative about her then your kid is going to hate her and think neg about his father. Your choice, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't do anything about her retaliation ship with your child. Well, actually you can. If you are neutral/positive about her then maybe your kid will give her a chance and have fun when he visits his father. If you are negative about her then your kid is going to hate her and think neg about his father. Your choice, I guess.

My kid always likes them but is crushed when they don't stick around

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP! It sucks when they are so disappointed by the disappearing Gfs and wives.
My kid disliked the recent fiancée but says she is moving out this weekend because her commute is too long. Ex hasn't 't said a word.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do, other than trying to be a good parent. That's one of the major disadvantages of divorce-- you have no control whatsoever regarding the other parent's choice of partner, their permanence, and their role in your child's life. It gets a lot worse than this, frankly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She may be around a very long time, you sound jealous.

Doubtful. Ex is a serial dater. He likes my husband though. You think that's the problem. He likes us and doesn't like all the different women?

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. PLS USE SUBJECTS AND OBJECTS THAT MAKE SENSE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She may be around a very long time, you sound jealous.

Doubtful. Ex is a serial dater. He likes my husband though. You think that's the problem. He likes us and doesn't like all the different women?

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. PLS USE SUBJECTS AND OBJECTS THAT MAKE SENSE.

Concur. The statement made no sense. Step away from the wine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She may be around a very long time, you sound jealous.

Doubtful. Ex is a serial dater. He likes my husband though. You think that's the problem. He likes us and doesn't like all the different women?

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. PLS USE SUBJECTS AND OBJECTS THAT MAKE SENSE.

Concur. The statement made no sense. Step away from the wine.

OP made sense to me.
Her ex is a serial dater.
Her ex likes her husband and his former wife.
Her ex doesn't like the women her ex dates/marries.

It's not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

OP is jealous of the new wife, she is just an ex wife now.