Have you forgiven a spouse that cheated?

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How long did it take? What helped you get there? TIA!

[Anonymous]

Nobody has gone through this successfully?

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We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

[Anonymous]

me again... do a search, there have been many threads on this topic, many with good advice. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

Was it a one time thing or a long affair?

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No

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

Was it a one time thing or a long affair?

It went on for several months, while I was pregnant until just before I gave birth, if I remember right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

Was it a one time thing or a long affair?

It went on for several months, while I was pregnant until just before I gave birth, if I remember right.

Ouch. You are a better woman than I am.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

Was it a one time thing or a long affair?

It went on for several months, while I was pregnant until just before I gave birth, if I remember right.

What was your husband's rationale for cheating?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been married over 20 years since he cheated. We had small children, and I was young and scared so I stuck to our marriage. I am thankful I did, because he's a wonderful dad and husband who made a very bad mistake. It's still painful if I really sit and think about it, but honestly, unless a question like this comes up, I pretty much never think of it. I would say it took a good 3-4 years to get to that point, though, with the pain subsiding for the most part after a year or so. We went to therapy for a few months, but I didn't find that too helpful. Time, apologies and building back trust was the best medicine. Good luck!!

Was it a one time thing or a long affair?

It went on for several months, while I was pregnant until just before I gave birth, if I remember right.

What was your husband's rationale for cheating?

We were young. He was stupid. Honestly, at this point, I can't remember the reasons he gave, I'm sorry. But that just shows how insignificant such a huge-at-the-time thing is in a 26 year marriage.

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How many people have forgiven themselves for cheating?

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Anonymous wrote:How many people have forgiven themselves for cheating?

Does this ever happen?

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Anonymous wrote:me again... do a search, there have been many threads on this topic, many with good advice. Good luck!

Thank you and good for you both!!

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Anonymous wrote:How many people have forgiven themselves for cheating?

No, not yet.

[Anonymous]

No, I didn't forgive him. I had to pretend I did though. Here I was with a 3mo baby, no job, cross country from my family, and I get a phone call from the love of his life who is just dying to set the record straight. He confessed to everything, begged me to forgive him. He also begged me not to tell anything to his family, who thought he was their pride and joy. So I bit my lip, I went to therapy, I pretended it was all rosy until I got back on my feet and got a job. It was tough pretending for almost 2 years, but I did it. Then I kicked him out and told his parents that their dear son was a cheating bastard. Because you don't cheat on your pregnant wife. You don't tell you so -called girlfriend that you don't really want that baby and then try to act like Father of the Year.

You want to call me a bitch? Yes, I am a bitch and proud of it.