Ex grabbed my ass. How to handle?

[Anonymous]

Even though it's been more than a decade since we were together, my ex thinks it's okay to touch me and talk to me in a sexual way. He seems to think he's entitled to my body. It's very upsetting. It's my body.

I spoke to him about it again. I looked him square in the eye and told him not to grab my ass anymore. I hope it's effective this time. Does anyone have advice on what else can be done? I know I can call the police, but they probably have better things to do with their time than go after ass grabbing men.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, well, no means no. You tell him no and he has to understand that. You are in your rights to go to the police.

Perhaps you could go another decade without seeing him again.

[Anonymous]

Years ago when I was teaching kindergarten, one of the parents smacked me on the butt. I guess he thought he was being cute. I told him if he touched me again, I would report him to my administration, after I broke his hand.

He never touched me again.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids with him? If not, why are you still in contact with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids with him? If not, why are you still in contact with him?

+1000. Unless you have kids and see each other from time to time b/c of pickup and drop off, why the hell are you seeing each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids with him? If not, why are you still in contact with him?

+1000. Unless you have kids and see each other from time to time b/c of pickup and drop off, why the hell are you seeing each other?

In the original post, I meant "together" as in being a couple. We have 6 more years of parenting to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids with him? If not, why are you still in contact with him?

+1000. Unless you have kids and see each other from time to time b/c of pickup and drop off, why the hell are you seeing each other?

Exactly. And if you have kids together, reduce all contact to email, and have someone else preent at pick up and drop off.

[Anonymous]

So you're divorced. Sounds like you were submissive in the relationship and he was the DOM. he's still acting this was toward you possibly, probably, because he remembers he had this power over you.

Hate to say it, and mind you this is with no details from anything you've written, but most likely you might be giving off the vibe (or at least he thinks you are) that you are still his SUB.

Your pseudo 'confrontation' was good but you'll need to step it up more and establish your dominance and independence b/c he sounds like he could be a narcissist, type-A asshole who thinks he can still claim you. Grabbing your ass and making sexual comments is aphis attempt to exert control over you - and so far, at until recently, you seem to have let him get away with that.

[Anonymous]

He's just an asshole who thinks he's entitled to whatever he wants. His excuses was that he still finds me attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids with him? If not, why are you still in contact with him?

+1000. Unless you have kids and see each other from time to time b/c of pickup and drop off, why the hell are you seeing each other?

Exactly. And if you have kids together, reduce all contact to email, and have someone else preent at pick up and drop off.

This. There is no reason for you to be within 100 feet of him. If you're at a kids' sporting or school event, be on the other side of the space.

[Anonymous]

It's sounds like you handled it already.

[Anonymous]

Kick him in the balls.

[Anonymous]

If he continues, tell him that what he is doing is a battery and you are going to report him to the police. You will also have the visitation schedule modified so that all exchanges are supervised.

[Anonymous]

Just be flattered stop being so uptight .

[Anonymous]

Clearly explain that any further innapropriate touching on his part will have serious consequences, such as pressing charges. And go through with it if he doesn't get the message.