WWYD - DS's friend won't come to our house
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Anonymous
| DS is always going over to his friend's house. I feel bad that he is always eating when he is there and I also am tired of always driving to and from for the pickup/drop offs. (He lives 15 minutes from us). I have discussed this with DS and he says his friend doesn't like to go to other people's houses. Last week, I told DS that I couldn't drive hime over and that his friend needed to come to our house if they wanted to see each other. Five minutes later, DS told me that his friend's mom could pick him up. |
Anonymous
| Probably has nothing to do with you. If they didn't approve of you, they'd probably not have your DS over. |
Anonymous
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One of my kids is afraid of going to other people's houses, without us there, even if he knows them well.
Up until recently, there are only two of his friends houses where he felt comfortable going to alone. One was a family we have known since he was a baby, and the other is our neighbor. He is comfortable with the neighbor because they are right next door and he can come home any time he wants. To meet him, you would think he was outgoing, but he is actually very shy and has a lot of anxiety about new situations and places. I agree, if the family did not like you then they would not have your kid over so much. Very likely, the problem is their kid and nothing else. |
Anonymous
| I have a kid like that too. It's not personal and trust me, I don't mind feeding your child. In time, I am confident my son will expand his horizons, but he needs more time than most. |
Anonymous
| How old is your DS and his friend? |
Anonymous
| OP and PPs, how ple are these kids please? |
Anonymous
I used to like going to friends' houses because there was less supervision. 
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Anonymous
| I'd drive my kid over to the friend's house. 15 minutes each way is nothing! |
Anonymous
| I would kidnap the friend. By the time his parents track him down, they will have had a full play date. |
Anonymous
| My child has food allergies and tends to want to have kids over our house because he feels more comfortable. I always let people know that this is the case so they don't feel bad. |
Anonymous
This is my kid too. |
Anonymous
15 minutes there, 15 minutes back, 15 minutes there, 15 minutes back -- that's an hour of driving for one visit. |
Anonymous
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My sons best friend was like that... During an ugly divorce that took 3 years to not be ugly anymore.
My son had other friends and his friend had to make the decision to have no play date or to come over... He slowly started coming over, but would ask to leave suddenly some times. Of course his mom would rather my son go to his house but it does get old. It's just something you have to work around. |
Anonymous
| You should have DS's friend over, why not talk or email the mom (if they are young, elem. school) and ask if he can come over. You need to know your kid's friends. |
Anonymous
Really? That is an awful way to think of it. Is this how you diminish the importance of playdates for your child? You are extremely lazy, and your time is no more important than anyone else's, like it or not. |