Is this weird?
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Anonymous
| Visiting MIl, who decorated the second guest room to be DD's room and included both a crib and bed (DD is 2, still in crib). Last night we went out and when we came back there was a sign on the door "Shhh, Larla and MIL are sleeping here tonight." This morning she referred to it as "Grammy and Larla's room." I think it's really weird but am having trouble voicing why to DH. |
Anonymous
| Your child probably didn't want to sleep in a strange room alone. How sweet your MIL cares for her. |
Anonymous
| Weird? That is really sweet! |
Anonymous
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Since our children always slept in our room at that age, it would have benn borderline insulting to us, and an uncomfortable change of plan for our children! OP, you were staying at your MIL's house, and your 2 year old was supposed to sleep in a room all by herself? When you saw the bed, did you expect that it was for you or your spouse in case DD got scared? Unless the 2 year old is really used to Grandma, yes, I think this is weird. |
Anonymous
Really weird, but I have a lot of sympathy for grandmas in this kind of situation. It is so heart wrenching to imagine being old and having 0% chance of holding and taking care of a baby that's yours ever again.  I let my mil get in a LOT of squeezing and baby care after I realized this. Still a little out there though.
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Anonymous
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I don't find it weird, but here is why.
1. DS is very familiar with my parents (he's almost 2). Sees them once or twice a week and has since birth. Has spent nights with them here and there as well 2. When we visit my parents' summer house, DH and I sleep in the master bed. Dad sleeps in guest room 1. He has to sleep by himself due to night terrors and muscle spasms caused by medication and a neuro disorder. My mom sleeps in other guest room in a bed and DS sleeps in a crib in there. DS CANNOT sleep in the same room as me or DH as he wakes up if he hears us and if he ever wakes up at night or in the am before he's ready to get up, he will not go back to sleep. We've tried it before and it was a disaster for all involved. So because of this, it wouldn't be weird at all. I'm wondering if it bothers you because she didn't talk to you about it first? |
Anonymous
| I would be uncomfortable with it. I don't want anyone other than me deciding who sleeps with my kids. |
Anonymous
| What's weird is that she didn't discuss it with you first. My daughter will be sleeping with her grandmother next time we visit (she's 3) but it's been discussed as nauseous and my daughter is super excited about it. (Also, my daughter is no longer in a crib, so it's a different situation anyway.) |
Anonymous
Ad nauseum- not as nauseous!! |
Anonymous
| It's presumptuous and I'd probably raise an eyebrow over her assuming that she could do this but I wouldn't call it weird. I would try to reframe it as Grammy was taking Larla off my hands -- completely -- COMPLETELY -- for the night and into the morning hours, and I would say something like Fantastic! I get to sleep late! |
Anonymous
| You want weird- I am in my 30s and married but was visiting my parents on my own. The room I was staying in had two single beds. One night when I was heading to bed she was like, "oh let's have a sleepover! We can stay up and gossip. You must be so lonely without DH." I has a hard time telling her no but was tired and for some reason she stays up to all hours. It was odd, but with no grandkids yet we are becoming her "kids" again. This was just one example. |
Anonymous
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Why are so many parents today so uptight?
Doing out of the ordinary things at Grandma's always felt so exciting to me as a child. You're acting like she's a stranger wanting to sleep with your kid. Unless you have a real reason to not trust her, you are overreacting. |
Anonymous
| Good lord. This is your husband's mother trying to take care of her grandchild and giving you a break. Get over it and say thank you. |
Anonymous
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I would also find that odd. Not inappropriate or anything, just odd. Especially a 2 year old. It's not like they're doing fun slumber party activities. I just don't understand what the point would be.
Depends also on the length of the visit and how often visits happen. I try to keep the kids' sleep as normal as possible while we're away (I don't obsess over naps and things, but I try not to throw in too many extra curve balls). |
Anonymous
| Cute. Unclench, OP. |