Is this weird?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would also find that odd. Not inappropriate or anything, just odd. Especially a 2 year old. It's not like they're doing fun slumber party activities. I just don't understand what the point would be.

Depends also on the length of the visit and how often visits happen. I try to keep the kids' sleep as normal as possible while we're away (I don't obsess over naps and things, but I try not to throw in too many extra curve balls).

Yeah, I find it odd. I think, as a PP said, it would be less odd if Grandma had asked first. I also think that the whole "trying to create a special exclusive thing" with a two year old without asking the parents is just a little much.

Is your MIL otherwise normal, or is this one of a laundry list of weird overstepping behavior? I think the intentions are good, but really....it's a little off.

How did DD sleep? If you felt her sleep was disrupted, I'd speak up and say that you felt so and that you'd just prefer DD sleep in her crib alone like she's used to.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Your MIL bought a crib, gave you the night off, and kept your child happy. I'd visit all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cute. Unclench, OP.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I think it's really weird but am having trouble voicing why to DH.

You haven't voiced it here either. Why does this bother you so much.?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Yeah, I find it odd. I think, as a PP said, it would be less odd if Grandma had asked first. I also think that the whole "trying to create a special exclusive thing" with a two year old without asking the parents is just a little much.

You want Grandma to ask her son and dil if she may sleep in a room in her own house? While she is giving them free childcare?

[Anonymous]

I would find this odd. I'm assuming all your things are in said room, and it would be weird to now be tossed out an into a different room while you were out. Definitely be grateful, but there needs to be a talk about boundaries. I would not be a happy camper if I came back and all of a sudden there's a note on the door that we're now sleeping in a new room with DD in the other.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the pps who say it's uncomfortable because MIL didn't ask first. I think it would be great if my MIL asked me first. But not asking? She's stepping in and taking over the parents' role. That would bother me. I'd wonder what else she might take over without asking me.

[Anonymous]

Weird starts with MIL creating a bedroom for your 2 yo in her house. Weird continues when she creates her own slumber party with your child as a prop.

It's great that she loves being a grandparent and helping her son and DIL, but I guarantee this behavior is the tip of the iceberg for treating Larla like her own little dolly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird starts with MIL creating a bedroom for your 2 yo in her house. Weird continues when she creates her own slumber party with your child as a prop.

It's great that she loves being a grandparent and helping her son and DIL, but I guarantee this behavior is the tip of the iceberg for treating Larla like her own little dolly.

Who cares? Let her have her fun. OP's child is so lucky there's an excess of love to go around - it's not a competition.

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that your child was afraid or having a hard time falling asleep, and she decided to just sleep in the room? Or that she was worried she wouldn't hear your daughter because the master bedroom is too far away/thick doors/etc.?

[Anonymous]

the weird part is she didn't discuss it first. it feels a little possessive. but not considering that, it seems fine. Maybe you can just ask her to ask permission next time (if you think she can handle that, if you think this would be too ego-wounding I would just skip it and save it for a discussion later the next time you visit)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many parents today so uptight?
Doing out of the ordinary things at Grandma's always felt so exciting to me as a child. You're acting like she's a stranger wanting to sleep with your kid. Unless you have a real reason to not trust her, you are overreacting.

+1

I just had a sleepover at my parents. Two mattresses on the living room floor. Me, my mom and two girls slept on them. It was fun!

When I had one, she would spend the night every so often with my parents. LOVED the free time with DH

[Anonymous]

My guess is your kid had trouble falling asleep so your MIL decided to keep her company and then since you were out late decided to just sleep in there.

[Anonymous]

Very sweet and totally normal, from what I've seen.

[Anonymous]

My mil has a nursery at her house for the grand kids. I think what your mil did was lovely. That's exactly what my mother does and it makes her day. I'm struggling to see the problem here. I think the OP sounds weirder than the mil.