How would I do on the dating market?

[Anonymous]

36yo divorced mom with shared custody of 2 kids. Petite and slim (5'4" 120 lbs). Well educated. Enjoys travel.

[Anonymous]

Folks can give you all the predictions and prognostications in the world but only one way to find out

[Anonymous]

Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

[Anonymous]

My sister is you, but she is 39. It probably depends a little on how old your kids are. Hers are already a preteen and a teen, so they are pretty independent. She has gotten a few bites through on-line dating, but most of the guys have slightly less education than she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

I used to have a fun and flirty personality. Once upon a time, I used to have a long line of guys interested in me. My current interests mostly revolve around my kids. I haven't stepped foot in a club since I had kids but I used to love to dance. Ivy league educated and successful in my career although a bit mommy tracked (my choice to cut down in hours). Not sure if that helps or hurts me. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun. I do not care about the guy's education or career. I'm a bit old fashioned though but would want the guy to be a gentleman.

I used to have ridiculously high standards and I may have married for all the wrong reasons. Ex DH is good looking, smart and successful. He is a snob and frankly a bit of an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

I used to have a fun and flirty personality. Once upon a time, I used to have a long line of guys interested in me. My current interests mostly revolve around my kids. I haven't stepped foot in a club since I had kids but I used to love to dance. Ivy league educated and successful in my career although a bit mommy tracked (my choice to cut down in hours). Not sure if that helps or hurts me. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun. I do not care about the guy's education or career. I'm a bit old fashioned though but would want the guy to be a gentleman.

I used to have ridiculously high standards and I may have married for all the wrong reasons. Ex DH is good looking, smart and successful. He is a snob and frankly a bit of an ass.

You sound a bit stuck on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

I used to have a fun and flirty personality. Once upon a time, I used to have a long line of guys interested in me. My current interests mostly revolve around my kids. I haven't stepped foot in a club since I had kids but I used to love to dance. Ivy league educated and successful in my career although a bit mommy tracked (my choice to cut down in hours). Not sure if that helps or hurts me. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun. I do not care about the guy's education or career. I'm a bit old fashioned though but would want the guy to be a gentleman.

I used to have ridiculously high standards and I may have married for all the wrong reasons. Ex DH is good looking, smart and successful. He is a snob and frankly a bit of an ass.

You sound a bit stuck on yourself.

I'm sorry if my post came off the wrong way. I used to have this stupid checklist and I was high on myself. That is probably why I married someone like the ex. I needed to be treated like a princess in my 20's. I have matured and realize how immature I was.

I just want someone to laugh and have fun with. I am a completely different person from when I first met my ex. I want to start fresh. I just signed up for match.com and the only guy I thought was cute was 8 years my junior and never married. Don't think online dating is for me. At the same time, most of my friends are married with kids. Don't really have local single friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

I used to have a fun and flirty personality. Once upon a time, I used to have a long line of guys interested in me. My current interests mostly revolve around my kids. I haven't stepped foot in a club since I had kids but I used to love to dance. Ivy league educated and successful in my career although a bit mommy tracked (my choice to cut down in hours). Not sure if that helps or hurts me. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun. I do not care about the guy's education or career. I'm a bit old fashioned though but would want the guy to be a gentleman.

I used to have ridiculously high standards and I may have married for all the wrong reasons. Ex DH is good looking, smart and successful. He is a snob and frankly a bit of an ass.

You sound a bit stuck on yourself.

I'm sorry if my post came off the wrong way. I used to have this stupid checklist and I was high on myself. That is probably why I married someone like the ex. I needed to be treated like a princess in my 20's. I have matured and realize how immature I was.

I just want someone to laugh and have fun with. I am a completely different person from when I first met my ex. I want to start fresh. I just signed up for match.com and the only guy I thought was cute was 8 years my junior and never married. Don't think online dating is for me. At the same time, most of my friends are married with kids. Don't really have local single friends.

You don't sound stuck on yourself to me. You sound confident, which is sexy, and you sound like you know what you want. Nothing wrong with that.

I'd love to buy you a drink or coffee and laugh a little. I'm still stuck in my situation, though, and not getting out of it anytime soon.

If you'd be into a new friend to just hang with, though, let me know. I'm 44. Two kids. No intimacy at home. Work hard and try to be super dad. Told I'm attractive. I'm athletic and do work out and try to look my best. I've been just friends with many women over the years and can do it again. Haha ... A lot missing in my relationship, not just the intimacy.

Good luck with your search!

GL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enjoys travel.

We all do.

What is your breast size?

[Anonymous]

Do you have any hobbies that aren't expensive? Travel is. No new guy will want to spend money on you for a weekend away until things are serious. Are you a good listener? Do you like to play sports? Cook? Go to concerts? Museums?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is you, but she is 39. It probably depends a little on how old your kids are. Hers are already a preteen and a teen, so they are pretty independent. She has gotten a few bites through on-line dating, but most of the guys have slightly less education than she does.

Meaning... she rejected them because they had slightly less education?

[Anonymous]

OP, your description sounds great so far, but it is very broad in general.

You would need to be more specific.

What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies & interests? Religion? Political views?

Do you see yourself getting married again? Are you open to the idea of having more children? If so, how many?

What are YOU looking for in a life partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

I used to have a fun and flirty personality. Once upon a time, I used to have a long line of guys interested in me. My current interests mostly revolve around my kids. I haven't stepped foot in a club since I had kids but I used to love to dance. Ivy league educated and successful in my career although a bit mommy tracked (my choice to cut down in hours). Not sure if that helps or hurts me. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun. I do not care about the guy's education or career. I'm a bit old fashioned though but would want the guy to be a gentleman.

I used to have ridiculously high standards and I may have married for all the wrong reasons. Ex DH is good looking, smart and successful. He is a snob and frankly a bit of an ass.

You'll do just fine...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, do you have a personality? Sense of humor? Varied interests and hobbies?

Your age, fitness, and education will get you a first date but who you are will determine how you do on the " dating market."

Wish this were true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your description sounds great so far, but it is very broad in general.

You would need to be more specific.

What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies & interests? Religion? Political views?

Do you see yourself getting married again? Are you open to the idea of having more children? If so, how many?

What are YOU looking for in a life partner?

I work in business. Grew up Christian. Most of my spare time revolves around my kids - sports, music, science, pool, etc. I know that may sound lame but it is simply the truth. I am a very involved parent and my kids do mean the world to me. In an ideal world, I could find a guy who also has kids and we could hang out together and our kids could be friends. Wishful thinking, I know. I am not looking for a Brady Bunch scenario but I do think a father would understand me better. I'm not sure how much I would have in common with a single never married non-parent.

I'm not much of a cook but enjoy going out to try new restaurants. Love the beach and boating. Trying to reinvent myself and not have my entire identity be about being a mom.