"Family Photo"
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Anonymous
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Why would someone take a "family photo" and exclude spouses?
I have even seen it done at a wedding. We recently went to a wedding where the brides parents took a "family photo" and excluded the groom. You can't make this stuff up! |
Anonymous
| I don't find it uncommon for the bride to do a photo with just her parents and siblings, and the groom to do the same. It would be odd if my parents, and I and my brother and SIL took a picture and left out my DH, though. |
Anonymous
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Was it just the parents and the bride? I don't see anything wrong with that.
If there are other issues though, this is a bad thing. |
Anonymous
| This ties in with another thread where the poster was upset that a displayed family photo included her husband's ex-GF or ex-wife (can't remember which). So maybe to have a nice family photo of just the immediate family and, bonus, you can still display it after any divorces without upsetting anyone. |
Anonymous
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My SIL (so DH brother's wife) was left out of my pics and I didn't notice until we actually saw them. They were engaged at the time so she wasn't some fly by night date. I still want to photoshop her in! Kidding, but only sort of. The group pics were a flurry of people in and out because we have big families so I didn't notice with DH family that she wasn't on the end before they rushed in my sister and mom and then next group, etc.
Come to find out she was at the bar already! (My ceremony and everything was all in one place, less formal) You can usually tell if there is malice or ill intent with these things. I could see that being the case with some relationships and just honest mistakes with others. |
Anonymous
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What about making two families with children all meet up in the very busy post- Thanksgiving and pre-Christmas time to gather for a family photo shoot in uniforms of sorts? My MIL demanded that everyone in our family wear black and white.
We sat for the photo session at a studio, ostensibly for the family photo shoot, then my in laws decided to just buy only the one picture of all of the grand kids, without spouses. Total waste of time. Never again. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| We just had an informal "sibling" photo taken at a wedding. It's a treasure to me. And I love my spouse. |
Anonymous
When I was dating and engaged I refused to get in photos until I was really family. Mainly because I didn't want to be in the photos, but also because I just wanted to wait. |
Anonymous
I would have had a photo with her and without her, just in case it didn't work out. Doesn't really matter though, because only the bride and bride's mother are going to look at the photos. I wouldn't sweat it. My cousin had his fiance in a lot of family photos (not wedding, but special milestone bday.) They broke up shortly afterward. So it's kind of awkward because she is in a LOT of the photos, a couple of them are framed and hanging up because it was a "group" photo. Can you imagine if he ever gets married how awkward that will be for his wife? (FWIW, I don't think ex spouses should necessarily be removed but ex boy/girlfriends shouldn't be on display.) After her divorce, my aunt destroyed all photos of her ex, my cousin's father. He never saw a photo of his father until he was a teen. (Father gave up custody so they could leave the country and come to the USA.) |
Anonymous
| It's rude to exclude spouses from family pic. You can't explain away lack of manners. |
Anonymous
| I don't think its rude to do various versions of the "family photo." I have wedding photos of me + my parents, me + my mom and grandmother, etc. We have photos of my husband with his parents, with his brothers, etc. (None of my SILs came to my wedding, so they weren't in any of the photos.) It's not like he wasn't in any of the photos, but the different combinations can be nice. We did family photos for my mom's side of the family, and the photographer did a bunch of shots--my grandmother with all her kids and their spouses + grandkids, but also some with just her kids, not the spouses, and some with each nuclear family, and just the cousins without spouses, and the cousins with spouses, etc. It was clearly about getting different combinations, not about excluding someone. |
Anonymous
| So glad my wedding photographer insisted on pics with my parents and siblings as my brother ended up divorced shortly after my wedding. |
Anonymous
Leaving out the spouse from a "family" photo says "Spouse isn't really part of our family." At my wedding DH and I didn't want each other to not be in pics with our families, and if our siblings had been married then we wouldn't have excluded our spouse from the pictures either. |
Anonymous
The issue is the message it send "Spouse isn't really part of our family". |