Mom called me an abortionist for using birth control

[Anonymous]

Well, the subject says it all. I have never gotten along with my mom but as she ages she has been saying crazy things, like how we used to be super close and we were the role model mother-daughter relationship. She said the "old me" was loving and nurturing and wouldn't ever abort a child (in response to my getting an iud). Everything is just super extreme and depressing and past tense. Is it the beginning of dementia? Is she depressed about how her life has turned out? I'm not sure how to deal other than just quit talking to her but I don't want to alienate other family members in the process.

[Anonymous]

If you have never gotten along why would you tell her that?

[Anonymous]

Isn't that actually technically incorrect, ie, that birth control = abortion, but the Church likes to put it out there?

[Anonymous]

She's becoming that angry old woman yelling at clouds.

[Anonymous]

Current IUDs prevent the sperm from reaching the un-fertilized egg. Definitely not an abortion. (The old, inert ones could also act to prevent a fertilized egg from implanting itself in the uterus lining.)

Re: your mother, OP, just limit contact as much as you can, and get off the phone when she starts spouting nonsense. Say: "Right, I have to go now. Bye!"
That's what I do.

[Anonymous]

The lesson to learn is that you will never have the kind of mother-daughter relationship that you desire. Don't talk to her about this kind of issue. Sucks, but that's what it is.

[Anonymous]

Call her a slut....you are proof she had sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Current IUDs prevent the sperm from reaching the un-fertilized egg. Definitely not an abortion. (The old, inert ones could also act to prevent a fertilized egg from implanting itself in the uterus lining.)

Re: your mother, OP, just limit contact as much as you can, and get off the phone when she starts spouting nonsense. Say: "Right, I have to go now. Bye!"
That's what I do.

Maybe your mother doesn't know that the new ones act differently than the old type?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call her a slut....you are proof she had sex.

[Anonymous]

I would think this is dementia possibly setting in. Just try to be understanding and kind, treating her behavior as a symptom of a disease beyond her control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have never gotten along why would you tell her that?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't that actually technically incorrect, ie, that birth control = abortion, but the Church likes to put it out there?

+1000

Funny how the church says nothing about deadbeat dads.... Oh right, it's MISOGYNY, not Misandry.

[Anonymous]

Stop yelling her things like that. Treat her like a well meaning but brain damaged aunt you see every few years. Keep everything light, fluffy and vague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop yelling her things like that. Treat her like a well meaning but brain damaged aunt you see every few years. Keep everything light, fluffy and vague.

Yup. Only talk about sports and the weather.

[Anonymous]

Too much Fox News or too much church.

Sorry.

Just limit contact and limit topics of conversation. If you can't, and she says something like that to you, say "That's not true and it's very hurtful for you to say that. I have to go now." and hang up the phone or leave.