For those happily married

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Who married young, in your early 20s: How much romantic experience did you have before meeting your spouse? How many significant relationships, but also number of lovers?

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Married at 22 to my college sweetheart. He was my 3rd serious boyfriend, 3rd "lover". I was his first for both. We celebrated 6 years this weekend...so we're still new to all this, but so far so good

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I got married in my mid 20's. Is that young enough?

I had a boyfriend for 7 years (junior year of high school until senior year of college) before that.

My husband was the 3rd person I've slept with and my 2nd significant relationship. The 2nd person I slept with was one of my best friend's from high school (after I broke up with the high school/college boyfriend) and a total drunken mistake.

We've been married 12 years and are really happy.

[Anonymous]

I married at 23 and had a to. Of experience, all with much older men. Surprisingly my DH was close to my age but the best fit. At that poi to knew exactly what I wanted and would make the same choice today.

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 23 and had a to. Of experience, all with much older men. Surprisingly my DH was close to my age but the best fit. At that poi to knew exactly what I wanted and would make the same choice today.

Had a ton of.

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Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, sexual or relationship experience does not mean that you are better prepared for marriage. Marriage is a tornado you're thrown into. Find the right person and you'll be fine. Prior experience isn't that beneficial.

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Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

Really? They asked why rush after 3 years of dating? That makes zero sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

Really? They asked why rush after 3 years of dating? That makes zero sense.

Hello, this is DC! Most of the rest of my DC friends got married around 30+ (although after 1 year of dating!)

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Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

Really? They asked why rush after 3 years of dating? That makes zero sense.

Hello, this is DC! Most of the rest of my DC friends got married around 30+ (although after 1 year of dating!)

And your point is?

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Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

Really? They asked why rush after 3 years of dating? That makes zero sense.

Hello, this is DC! Most of the rest of my DC friends got married around 30+ (although after 1 year of dating!)

And your point is?

That was why my family and friends thought we were rushed getting married so "young" at 25. It's not the norm here.

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Anonymous wrote:Married at 25 after 3 years of dating. By that time I'd had one 4 year relationship and two 1 year relationships.

I had my eye on the prize and knew exactly who and what I wanted. All of my friends were dating around still, but I love DH more now than when we married. When we announced our engagement we got so many replies of "why rush?!" It feels like society says "wait, wait, wait" and then the next year it's "you're old! Your eggs are getting old! all the good men are taken! You just can't win unless you do what you know is right.

Really? They asked why rush after 3 years of dating? That makes zero sense.

Hello, this is DC! Most of the rest of my DC friends got married around 30+ (although after 1 year of dating!)

And your point is?

That was why my family and friends thought we were rushed getting married so "young" at 25. It's not the norm here.

Do you understand a difference between age and "rushing"?

[Anonymous]

I met my now husband when we were really young - he was 21, I was 23, but we didn't get married for another 7 years. That gave us time to grow as people together. We'll celebrate 5 years of marriage this year, but we've been together for 12.

My favorite aunt met my uncle when she was 19 and married him when she was 20. That was weird even then. They are blissfully happy 40 years later.

I wouldn't worry about a right time or how many past partners. It really seems to come down to picking a person you want to grow with, who you respect, and who is kind. The rest doesn't matter as much as the years go by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who married young, in your early 20s: How much romantic experience did you have before meeting your spouse? How many significant relationships, but also number of lovers?

Married at 30, DH was my first serious boyfriend. Our 20th anniversary is this year.

[Anonymous]

married at 32, husband was 40, never married before either of us. Married about a year after we met, going on 12 happily. He had a ton of experience, I had very little.