Gift from my step kids to my DH

[Anonymous]

So for fathers day my DH got a gift from his kids (6,8) and it made me feel a little strange. It was a picture of him and the kids at a baseball game earlier this summer. It must of been taken at the end of a game by his ex-wife, but I either wasn't at the game or didn't notice her taking it. It also included some cookies my DH LOVES that his kids "made". He literally screeched with excitement "omg s'more cookies!". The gift made me feel so odd and lonely. I feel like the EX is trying to remind me that she was first. I think a picture of just the kids would of been more appropriate or a picture of the 5 of us (a true family picture). DH thought it was fine though. Perspectives?

[Anonymous]

Yikes OP. You have serious issues. How sad

[Anonymous]

OP, You think the ex is insecure?

[Anonymous]

I fail to see how this has anything to do with you, let alone how you would see it as inappropriate. How the hell does a Father's Day gift from his children, facilitated by their mother, offend you? You are incredibly insecure and petty.

[Anonymous]

You're totally over-reacting here. She divorced her childrens' father and is showing them through her actions that she still respects him. What she's doing is great.

Have some tea and calm down.

[Anonymous]

Hi op, agree with the others. Know it's hard, but the kids and x did a good thing

[Anonymous]

A photo of him with his kids for FATHER'S day? Something wrong with that?

[Anonymous]

OP, you got the man. Let the children give him a photo and some cookies. He left them for you. You won.

[Anonymous]

The only way this would have been weird or questionable is if the ex was in the pic with the kids and DH. She's not. Otherwise, it's just a thoughtful gift. She's still their mother and should absolutely be facilitating gifts at their ages.

[Anonymous]

I'd be thrilled if my step kids got their dad a gift on Father's Day. Do you have kids together? Don't you want them to honor and appreciate their father on Father's Day? His ex wife is awesome for creating an environment that ensures their kids love and honor both parents. Hats off to her. Wish my husband's ex was the same. Very happy he does help the kids get a gift for their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're totally over-reacting here. She divorced her childrens' father and is showing them through her actions that she still respects him. What she's doing is great.

Have some tea and calm down.

+1

The ex-DW isn't in the photo. She just took it.

You act like there are ex-DW cooties on the photo and cookies.

[Anonymous]

You must be a joy to be married to. Anyone want to start placing bets how long it takes OP to get divorced?

[Anonymous]

Um, she WAS first. AND, he's married to you now. You have to acknowledge her before you can stand securely in your position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're totally over-reacting here. She divorced her childrens' father and is showing them through her actions that she still respects him. What she's doing is great.

Have some tea and calm down.

+1000 There is some good history there. Your husband's reaction confirms that and that is good for the kids. The kids have a mom and a stepmom but that doesn't mean that the mom has to include you in all father and child celebrations.

[Anonymous]

Plus a zillion to PPs.