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So my husband went away on a trip for the job he loves and of course I was home manning the ship. He was supposed to come straight home, but instead decided to make a pit stop (unessasary I might add) at work which of course turned into hours and I was and still am absoltuley LIVID. So, instead of what I thought was going to be relief in that he would handle bed time and maybe dinner turned into on duty for me.
When I go on business trips I make sure get home as soon as possible to "relieve" him because I know what it feels like. What pisses me off more is that he just doesn't get it. Am I overreacting? I cannot seem to let go of being pissed. |
Anonymous
| Go away for the weekend! You deserve a break! |
zumbamama
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| I think the same way you do, OP. But at my previous job, I noticed men would always come straight to the office from the airport. In my mind, I would think, man, why don't they go home first! Then I was sent on a business trip, flew home at noon, and the office wanted me in right away. |
Anonymous
No, I don't think you are overreacting. My husband does this to me routinely and it drives me nuts. There's something about thinking that relief coming that makes their delayed arrival that much more irritating. It's definitely not you. |
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My first reaction is, you are not overreacting.
However, try to give him a chance to explain. Maybe the situation at work really required his presence there. And in his mind, doing a good job/keeping his job is the best way to care for his family? |
Anonymous
| relax. he has a job to do. do you want him to keep his job? these are tough times. be happy someone is coming home at all. jeez. |
Anonymous
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you act as if he is personally doing this to YOU just to make you mad. Do you think he is avoiding the family? Some men do, many at my office are quite open about it and refer to watching their children as "babysitting" and complain that coming home is the most stressful part of their day b/c they have no idea what kind of reception to expect from their wives.
This post is timely. My husband traveled this week (I'm a working mom as well) and his plane landed at 2:15. He told me he was coming home after that. He called on his way out of the airport and said he had to go into the office for a 4PM meeting. He was really annoyed, but he flew back with his boss and could not use a flight delayed or some other excuse. Yea, I've been flying solo this week (as I often do), but I'm with the PP. I'm happy we are both employed and are living comfortably unlike many other people right now. Nothing better than a crumbling economy to make you grateful for the sometimes hectic pace. |
Anonymous
| There's only one solution ... make him do the whole mad bed/bath thing on his own. Not just once ... regularly. He obviously doesn't get it otherwise. My DH gets mad at me if I don't come back as soon as I possibly can to help. He'll get it once he's had to experience what you do. |
Anonymous
| Fire him immediately. |
Anonymous
| You didn't mention if you told HIM how upset you were. Did you talk to him about it? What did he say? |
Anonymous
| So much for the notion of two-career, equal 50-50 marriages. |
Anonymous
| kids are only little once and it goes fast! be grateful you have children and enjoy what time you have with them for god's sake! |
Anonymous
| I'm a dad and I work full time. I don't know how the hell you wives/moms put up with your husbands, who don't help as much as they should. Yeah, you're going to say they have a tough job work schedule being a high income lawyer. Big _uckin deal. They need to do more at home, which is as valuable as their precious billing fees. |
Anonymous
| PP you are my hero |
Anonymous
Are you single? What's your number? |