Noticing very chunky young kids

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your rant op. Kids and parents are aware of these issues and do not need a horrible person posting about it.

That clearly isn’t true based on the number of posters making so many excuses about why their kids are big, but it couldn’t possibly be their fault and there is just nothing they could do about it.

Pssst--some of us arguing that there are multiple causes of the obesity epidemic don't have overweight kids.

You might want to examine why you're so eager to cast blame on your fellow parents.

Can you please examine why you’re so eager to make excuses for people who have a problem that you apparently don’t have? Is it virtue signaling? Does it make you feel like a superior human being to treat other able-bodied adults as though they are just naturally incompetent, therefore the question of personal responsibility is off the table?

Because while you may feel that you are being extremely nice and supportive, what you are actually doing is condescendingly infantilizing others. Low expectations, indeed.

It is not making excuses to point out that multiple things can be true at the same time. Are poor nutrition and lack of exercise part of it? OF COURSE! Is the government also responsible for subsidizing certain crops so that manufacturers engineer crap foods that aren't good for us so they can increase profits? Also true! Do manufacturers spend millions of dollars in lobbying fees to avoid having to be straightforward about what's in the products they sell? Yes!

I could go on, but you seem to be concerned with only one of these factors when they're all part of the problem.

Assuming all factors mentioned in this thread are equal contributors to the issue (they’re not, of course, but let’s pretend that’s the case) you need to then ask yourself which of these factors (if any) are within an individual’s ability to control (e.g. what and how much food you CHOOSE to give your children at home and how much exercise you make your children do). Those are the ONLY things worth worrying about at individual level. Complaining about food manufacturers and schools and birthday parties and the government doesn’t accomplish anything.

Neither does complaining about other people’s kids being obese. At least seeking change at the government level affects everyone. You screaming at clouds helps no one.

And conflating birthday parties with the cash crops/lobbying dynamic PP accurately wrote about makes you sound like an idiot. Or a lobbyist.

[Anonymous]

Multiple things can be true at the same time. We really do have a crappy food environment. Also, knowing that, we should all try and make the best choices we can and encourage our kids to do the same. But it's not a guarantee of anything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Multiple things can be true at the same time. We really do have a crappy food environment. Also, knowing that, we should all try and make the best choices we can and encourage our kids to do the same. But it's not a guarantee of anything!

DP here. And for the love of God can't everyone just drink water? This is the hardest "societal" influence I have to fight with my teens about. 100+ calorie drinks with 20+ grams of sugar - why do these have to be a fad???? Or 1000+ calories for an overpriced Chipotle bowl. It's all expensive AND bad for you. But it's so hard to fight the influence of other teenagers.

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Anything from Chipotle is like 2-3 meals so not a bad deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

+1

I have one who is super skinny- borderline underweight (boy) , one average-thin (girl), one stocky (boy). Mine eat very noticeably different quantities though. My very skinny DS would forget to eat half the time if I didn’t remind him, stocky DS eats a lot and works out a ton (very athletic, just bulky not overweight). Serves the same food but have very different appetites.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Multiple things can be true at the same time. We really do have a crappy food environment. Also, knowing that, we should all try and make the best choices we can and encourage our kids to do the same. But it's not a guarantee of anything!

DP here. And for the love of God can't everyone just drink water? This is the hardest "societal" influence I have to fight with my teens about. 100+ calorie drinks with 20+ grams of sugar - why do these have to be a fad???? Or 1000+ calories for an overpriced Chipotle bowl. It's all expensive AND bad for you. But it's so hard to fight the influence of other teenagers.

+1 I am soooo over the drinks….Starbucks junk, sugary smoothies, blah blah. Overpriced and so bad for them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

Truth

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

If they were all eating the same, the chunky kid wouldn’t be as chunky. That kid is eating a bigger portion of snacks and/or meals than the other kids. You e never been to a playdate where one kid is ponding the strawberries way harder than any other kid? Just give them all the same sized plate of food and when it’s gone, it’s gone. If anyone is still hungry, offer baby carrots or cucumbers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

We refuse seconds of dessert all the time. “Can I have another ice cream cone?” “No.” Why should it be any different with baked ziti?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

We refuse seconds of dessert all the time. “Can I have another ice cream cone?” “No.” Why should it be any different with baked ziti?

So no seconds of baked ziti for anyone, or just the chunky ones? And does that go for the adults, or just kids? Guests?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

We refuse seconds of dessert all the time. “Can I have another ice cream cone?” “No.” Why should it be any different with baked ziti?

So no seconds of baked ziti for anyone, or just the chunky ones? And does that go for the adults, or just kids? Guests?

I see you are seriously concerned about the obesity epidemic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

We refuse seconds of dessert all the time. “Can I have another ice cream cone?” “No.” Why should it be any different with baked ziti?

So no seconds of baked ziti for anyone, or just the chunky ones? And does that go for the adults, or just kids? Guests?

I see you are seriously concerned about the obesity epidemic...

Trying to learn since some posters seem to have all the answers here….