What parts of your life/lifestyle are unapproved by DCUM standards?

[Anonymous]

My 16yo rising junior does not have a summer job. He's going to a week of space camp, a week of Scouts camp canoeing in Minnesota, a week of family vacation, and then starts his fall sport practice on July 31. In between time will be hanging with his friends or working on his Eagle project.

DCUM seems to think all teens should have a summer job by age 14.

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I just ate 6 Taco Bell tacos before bed

[Anonymous]

DCUM hates mothers in general, MILs even more. and all Boomers regardless. They just can't win.

[Anonymous]

We are empty nesters and rent. Sold the house when the last kid left and have moved around (different states) looking for the area we want to make our forever place. Honestly, I don’t care if we buy again…I rather enjoy not maintaining anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM hates mothers in general, MILs even more. and all Boomers regardless. They just can't win.

Especially mothers who had a baby before their 30th birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:As this thread devolves from the intent, a classist elitist who thinks the world is impressed by a kid doing free grunt work for a professor to get into a PhD program.

She puts down people who work at McDonalds or in the trades. She probably thinks less of garbage men but would by whining and complaining when her trash starts stacking up.

She also seems to think not paying for a college education or trade school means they stopped raising their kids. Part of this vast world is people make choices that works for them, in spite of those who want to put others down for those choices.

Considering only 50% who start PhD programs actually finishing them, getting into a program is about as impressive as a coin flip.

Maybe they can work at McDonalds, I know someone with a PhD who invested in a few.

You ain’t doin no book learnin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16yo rising junior does not have a summer job. He's going to a week of space camp, a week of Scouts camp canoeing in Minnesota, a week of family vacation, and then starts his fall sport practice on July 31. In between time will be hanging with his friends or working on his Eagle project.

DCUM seems to think all teens should have a summer job by age 14.

Good for him! Seriously. He'll get more out of his summer than his peers who are forced to work at McDonald's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve hooked up with a 20something from Tinder within less than an hour of matching.

Does your husband know?

[Anonymous]

My kids played football in elementary and middle school. (Friends and colleagues were shocked!)

My kids go to public school even though I went to a fancy private. (Friends and colleagues are shocked!)

Sometimes I feed my kids Kraft Mac and Cheese. (Shocking!)

While we travel extensively (my kids have had passports since birth), we enjoy periodic trips to OCMD. It’s fun! (Shocking!)

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Anonymous wrote:My 16yo rising junior does not have a summer job. He's going to a week of space camp, a week of Scouts camp canoeing in Minnesota, a week of family vacation, and then starts his fall sport practice on July 31. In between time will be hanging with his friends or working on his Eagle project.

DCUM seems to think all teens should have a summer job by age 14.

Good for him! Seriously. He'll get more out of his summer than his peers who are forced to work at McDonald's.

My 18 yo probably won’t get a job this summer. Will just enjoy the last summer before college. 100% fine with it.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

You mean the PP who thinks it’s a badge of honor to neglect her daughter?

Oh sure not paying for college for your kid is obvious neglect. What a moron!

In 2023, yes it is, if you want in the slightest for your child to be competitive in life & in the workplace.

Wrongo.

Thousands are entering trade schools and paying for it themselves. Going on believing your brand of BS.

Nobody wants to go to “trade schools” and risk pulling out their back for a living.

Go ahead believing your skreed. Let me know how that works out for you when your plumbing goes in the sh@tter.

And many in nursing school are paying for it themselves and are getting their costs reimbursed when hired.

My paying for his college son anecdotally sees far more kids on parents money wasting their college education than those paying for it themselves.

LOL. Sorry your family is poor. Hopefully it was worth spending his semesters working at McDonald’s while my child did research for a prof.

NP but your kid’s research for a prof is a pretty worthless experience.

No, working at McDonald’s. Research gets you into PhD programs.

NNP. Speaking of worthless...

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

You mean the PP who thinks it’s a badge of honor to neglect her daughter?

Oh sure not paying for college for your kid is obvious neglect. What a moron!

In 2023, yes it is, if you want in the slightest for your child to be competitive in life & in the workplace.

Wrongo.

Thousands are entering trade schools and paying for it themselves. Going on believing your brand of BS.

Nobody wants to go to “trade schools” and risk pulling out their back for a living.

Go ahead believing your skreed. Let me know how that works out for you when your plumbing goes in the sh@tter.

And many in nursing school are paying for it themselves and are getting their costs reimbursed when hired.

My paying for his college son anecdotally sees far more kids on parents money wasting their college education than those paying for it themselves.

LOL. Sorry your family is poor. Hopefully it was worth spending his semesters working at McDonald’s while my child did research for a prof.

My father was a professor and I assure you that a teenager will learn much more about the world working at McDonald's than palely loitering in the bowels of the library or washing out test tubes in a freezing research lab.

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Anonymous wrote:My family are foodies, all of them. (Today I learned that DCUM doesn’t approve of this)

Only if you’re smug and obnoxious about it.

I mean.. we like and appreciate good food, spend time making it, eating it and talking about it to each other. I don’t think we are smug or obnoxious but it seems like DCUM would think we are anyway.

Most “foodies” are fat

Food should be bland, healthy & in small portions

You mean like your sex life?

Nah, I just don’t care how “creative” you think you are making a gigantic bowl of pasta with a new sauce this time, fatty.

+1

Sorry to disappoint. I'm slim and lusty--in the kitchen and the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16yo rising junior does not have a summer job. He's going to a week of space camp, a week of Scouts camp canoeing in Minnesota, a week of family vacation, and then starts his fall sport practice on July 31. In between time will be hanging with his friends or working on his Eagle project.

DCUM seems to think all teens should have a summer job by age 14.

Yes your kid is busy and has the benefit of parents who can pay for camps and vacation. I think 16 year olds who aren't engaged in activities should definitely get jobs so they aren't just sitting on their phones all summer.

[Anonymous]

Pickle ball is a passing fad.