What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:I took my very elderly parent to a lawyer to have their will written and made sure I was the executor. When they died about a year or so later, I made my siblings think they were all getting their fair share of our parent’s estate, which they somewhat are, but in reality, I’m getting more than my siblings.

I’ve been surprised at how easy it has been to hide various small amounts of money that add up to me getting thousands more than my siblings. One sibling has been sniffing around a bit and asking questions, but I think she’s too dumb to figure it out. Bonus points for getting to stick it to my one really annoying sibling.

Is this just greed on your part or do you feel you deserve more, for example, for taking care of them?

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

That was your parents’ call not yours.

You are a thief.

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I sabotaged a high school senior’s college admissions by writing admissions officers anonymously about his criminal history and school disciplinary record for sexual assault and physical assault.

He got into one school I didn’t know he was applying to. I made fake social media accounts and email addresses and turned his friends and girlfriends against him using very specific private information. I sat back for a couple of years and was shocked that my information helped (really it was my introduction of them to each other) and they filed a complaint with the university for sexual and physical assault and he got expelled.

To this day, I told no one not even my DH.

This is next level messed up and wrong, and you know it and that's why you have not told anyone - because no mature adult would be ok with how you handled whatever issues you. had with this kid. Are you the parent from Sidwell Friends who called the admissions offices on a kid? You need therapy, badly.

Nah.. if someone was responsible for sexually assaulting my daughter in HS, I’d burn villages down and salt their fields to get revenge. This is relatively mild.

Yes, this kid sexually assaulted my daughter and other girls at the school and at another school. I actually discussed his actions with the mom of one of his exes. The principal knew about the incidents but did nothing about it. The school policy is to not answer questions on the Common App regarding disciplinary actions or criminal charges. I get that the policy is so kids who are disproportionately targeted by LE or disciplined for things like weed or alcohol are not unfairly impacted in admissions, but this kid was a white male who committed violent crimes. The system is broken and I took things into my own hands.

I applaud your actions.

Because he is not in jail though, he probably still assaults women, just not students at those colleges

I HOPE every victim presses charges so he is taken off the streets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I sabotaged a high school senior’s college admissions by writing admissions officers anonymously about his criminal history and school disciplinary record for sexual assault and physical assault.

He got into one school I didn’t know he was applying to. I made fake social media accounts and email addresses and turned his friends and girlfriends against him using very specific private information. I sat back for a couple of years and was shocked that my information helped (really it was my introduction of them to each other) and they filed a complaint with the university for sexual and physical assault and he got expelled.

To this day, I told no one not even my DH.

This is next level messed up and wrong, and you know it and that's why you have not told anyone - because no mature adult would be ok with how you handled whatever issues you. had with this kid. Are you the parent from Sidwell Friends who called the admissions offices on a kid? You need therapy, badly.

Nah.. if someone was responsible for sexually assaulting my daughter in HS, I’d burn villages down and salt their fields to get revenge. This is relatively mild.

Yes, this kid sexually assaulted my daughter and other girls at the school and at another school. I actually discussed his actions with the mom of one of his exes. The principal knew about the incidents but did nothing about it. The school policy is to not answer questions on the Common App regarding disciplinary actions or criminal charges. I get that the policy is so kids who are disproportionately targeted by LE or disciplined for things like weed or alcohol are not unfairly impacted in admissions, but this kid was a white male who committed violent crimes. The system is broken and I took things into my own hands.

Can you complain to the school district? Get the policy changed to exclude violent crimes?

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Anonymous wrote:I covered up sexual assault that occurred on a cruise line my wife’s family’s company owns. I had their cousin shred tons of documents related to it.

That is wrong, putting profits in front of women’s safety/the truth.

PP is talking about a plot line from Succession

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes like to dress my masculine husband up as a slutty girl.

Hot.

[Anonymous]

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Abortion when I was 27 that was the best decision for me and only two friends and the guy know. My current Dh does not know and he does not need to know. Most women who are alraedy well adjusted do not regret their choices and move on just fine.


“Well adjusted”? Wtf, no.

You can have made that choice and still have regret. Glad it was straightforward for you but it’s not for many and it has nothing to do with them being “well adjusted.”

+1000000 It has nothing to do with being well-adjusted. I would hope than any woman recognizes that it is a major decision and feeling conflicted is normal. if you are so well-adjusted and fine with it, why doesn't your DH know?

It's only a major decision because religious and patriarchal types have hyped it up as murder. There's no such thing as a soul, and a blastocyst isn't a child. I don't know if being conflicted over the issue has anything to do with being "well-adjusted." But it has a lot to do with the overwrought fictions created and promoted by social conservatives.

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My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant with our twins. I told only one friend who lives on the other side of the world. We’re still together nearly a decade later and I’m glad my family doesn’t know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Abortion when I was 27 that was the best decision for me and only two friends and the guy know. My current Dh does not know and he does not need to know. Most women who are alraedy well adjusted do not regret their choices and move on just fine.


“Well adjusted”? Wtf, no.

You can have made that choice and still have regret. Glad it was straightforward for you but it’s not for many and it has nothing to do with them being “well adjusted.”

+1000000 It has nothing to do with being well-adjusted. I would hope than any woman recognizes that it is a major decision and feeling conflicted is normal. if you are so well-adjusted and fine with it, why doesn't your DH know?

It's only a major decision because religious and patriarchal types have hyped it up as murder. There's no such thing as a soul, and a blastocyst isn't a child. I don't know if being conflicted over the issue has anything to do with being "well-adjusted." But it has a lot to do with the overwrought fictions created and promoted by social conservatives.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Abortion when I was 27 that was the best decision for me and only two friends and the guy know. My current Dh does not know and he does not need to know. Most women who are alraedy well adjusted do not regret their choices and move on just fine.


“Well adjusted”? Wtf, no.

You can have made that choice and still have regret. Glad it was straightforward for you but it’s not for many and it has nothing to do with them being “well adjusted.”

+1000000 It has nothing to do with being well-adjusted. I would hope than any woman recognizes that it is a major decision and feeling conflicted is normal. if you are so well-adjusted and fine with it, why doesn't your DH know?

It's only a major decision because religious and patriarchal types have hyped it up as murder. There's no such thing as a soul, and a blastocyst isn't a child. I don't know if being conflicted over the issue has anything to do with being "well-adjusted." But it has a lot to do with the overwrought fictions created and promoted by social conservatives.

I took Plan B once followed by a D&C and had zero conflict about it ever. I wasn’t ready.

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From early childhood into my 20s I would get into violent arguments with my older sister & younger brother. I’m a woman btw. I once broke my brother’s wrist in an argument.

Where we lived, wrestling was a huge sport; my brother wrestled from age 6-18. My dad who was in his 50s & my brother would practice wrestling each other in the living room. Sometimes my dad would wrestle our dog.

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My family knows this but my friends and even husband don’t. When I was in college I became a born again Christian/was in a Christian cult. Now I’m at the opposite end of the spectrum, a liberal atheist who despises Christianity.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m liberal but voted for Trump the past 2 elections.

Yep, me too

I voted for Trump as well. I’m a moderate

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m liberal but voted for Trump the past 2 elections.

Yep, me too

I voted for Trump as well. I’m a moderate[/quote

Why?

[Anonymous]

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My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

You sound extremely ignorant in several ways, and it’s not surprising you have been fired. Whether or not you think you deserve more money, you don’t because that’s up to the person who drafted the will. You are required to provide an accounting if any of your siblings requests it, and then what are you going to do?

The state actually doesn’t care if you provide an accounting or not. I have several friends who have been executors for their parents’ estates and they tell me that no one ever checks on whether or not the executor provides an accounting unless you are dealing with a very large estate. As long as the taxes are paid, no one is really going to check on me.

Don't try that in Maryland, lol. The accounting and paperwork were gone over with a fine tooth comb by the court system, which was fine with us. We actually went to the massive trouble of a years-long legal dispute because it was our fiduciary duty to make sure the beneficiaries got their inheritance. No fun at all, and a huge amount of trouble.

Same with Virginia.

To the OP of this thread, I hope you are caught and put in jail.

The penalties for executors are higher than for regular theft bc special trust has been put on you by the court and the deceased. You’re willfully stealing and for more than just greed, but with malice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Abortion when I was 27 that was the best decision for me and only two friends and the guy know. My current Dh does not know and he does not need to know. Most women who are alraedy well adjusted do not regret their choices and move on just fine.


“Well adjusted”? Wtf, no.

You can have made that choice and still have regret. Glad it was straightforward for you but it’s not for many and it has nothing to do with them being “well adjusted.”

+1000000 It has nothing to do with being well-adjusted. I would hope than any woman recognizes that it is a major decision and feeling conflicted is normal. if you are so well-adjusted and fine with it, why doesn't your DH know?

It's only a major decision because religious and patriarchal types have hyped it up as murder. There's no such thing as a soul, and a blastocyst isn't a child. I don't know if being conflicted over the issue has anything to do with being "well-adjusted." But it has a lot to do with the overwrought fictions created and promoted by social conservatives.

Stop it. I’m extremely pro-choice but when the pro-choice side gets into this rhetoric is when they lose me. You’re being as bad as the strident pro-lifers.

It’s totally fine to have conflicted feelings, not everyone who is conflicted and sad is that way bc of souls, or murder, or whatever. Simply because of the loss of what might have been and what could have been. The path not taken can be emotional when it’s just about a job, a relationship, etc. but when it’s about actual human life it can be profound.

I can tell you I never felt sadness, conflict, regret or anything negative about my experience, until I was finally a parent and then once my brain chemistry changed, it hit me like a bus of considering what might have started many years earlier. It was still the right decision and absolutely the responsible choice - but it doesn’t make the conflict disappear. And your cynicism and vitriol can’t change that.