Going to an HR with a complaint about co-worker - Dos and Donts

[Anonymous]

If I have an issue with a disrespectful and unprofessional co-worker. Is this something I can bring to HR to get on the record or is that a bad idea? Any advice really appreciated.

[Anonymous]

What's going on? What does your direct supervisor say?

It's going to depend on the nature and severity of the offense. In general, you are expected to figure out how to work professionally with your coworkers, or deal locally with, the issue with your supervisor.. It doesn't matter what's supposed to happen, but HR complaints generally tend to rub off on those who made the complaint. So unless it's clear EEO territory, be very, very, careful.

[Anonymous]

When you say "get on the record," what does that mean?

Have you tried to handle this yourself? Is this really serious, OP? Or is it a (a) a little tiff where both sides had their say, or (b) your perception of a possible slight but it could be just paranoia, or (c) a minor kerfuffle in the break room where you could/should have stood up for yourself but you expect HR to do the job for you or (d) a compliment you received on your appearance? If it's yes to any of abcd, I would NOT recommend going to HR. If it is truly an incident of disrespect -- ie, disrespect that NO ONE, ANYWHERE, should ever be expected to tolerate, yes, go to HR.

[Anonymous]

Don't go to HR for unprofessional attitude unless you are being sexually harassed or discriminated against. I would look up the legal definitions. You need to learn to deal with others. HR is not there for you. It is there for the company. HR does not care about your feelings. HR cares about the company getting in trouble legally. If your co- worker is not doing anything illegal do not go to HR. You will be seen as a troublemaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't go to HR for unprofessional attitude unless you are being sexually harassed or discriminated against.

This.