What does "I've fallen for you" mean?

[Anonymous]

My BF said that in an email yesterday (he is out of the country until Sunday), but I'm not sure what it means...is it a precursor to "I love you" or....a safe way of saying "I love you"... or??

I think he is the love of my life and don't want to screw it up, so I need to know how to interpret...thanks!

[Anonymous]

It means he wants to have sex with you and is infatuated with you.

If he wants to say "I love you," he'll say "I love you."

[Anonymous]

ok, thx.

we've had sex many times and said we "adore" each other...so I was wondering if it means he is trying to take it to the next level.


I'm trying not to overanalyze, but I am definitely in love with him so its hard!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means he wants to have sex with you and is infatuated with you.

If he wants to say "I love you," he'll say "I love you."

This.

"I've fallen for you" sounds both pseudo-Victorian and vaguely resentful. "You're nothing but a common shopgirl from Spitfields, Emily, but I've fallen for you. I'll put you up in a 33k pounds a year flat so I can have my way with you in between siring legitimate children and serving as an expert witness in this new field of medicine started by this Germanic chap Freud."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ok, thx.

we've had sex many times and said we "adore" each other...so I was wondering if it means he is trying to take it to the next level.


I'm trying not to overanalyze, but I am definitely in love with him so its hard!!

How old are you guys?

[Anonymous]

It's a shitty way of saying "I love you" when he can't man up and say the real thing.

[Anonymous]

40s both post-divorce, so cautious I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a shitty way of saying "I love you" when he can't man up and say the real thing.

+1, although I don't know about "shitty". I'd go more with "immature" or "chickenshit"

[Anonymous]

I think it's definitely a precursor to "I love you." I said it when I wasn't quite ready to profess love but the feelings were there.

[Anonymous]

Text messages are not necessarily true reflections of a persons instinctive thoughts.

If I were you I would hold off on jumping to conclusions about his feelings or assigning him the status of Prince Charming because of a text.

Face-to-face communication and human interaction are still the most telling/accurate indicators of how someone feels about you.

Facial expressions and vocal inflection are still the only ways to truly read emotion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40s both post-divorce, so cautious I guess.

To me, adore is so much stronger than love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF said that in an email yesterday (he is out of the country until Sunday), but I'm not sure what it means...is it a precursor to "I love you" or....a safe way of saying "I love you"... or??

I think he is the love of my life and don't want to screw it up, so I need to know how to interpret...thanks!

How did you two agree to be BF and GF?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have slept with someone that didn't tell me they loved me. Also normally boyfriends and girlfriends say they love each other before they achieve that status.

That said, my DH took 6 months to say it. Guess he had to wait a long while for sex! hah

[Anonymous]

It all depends on the person saying it. I used to say I adore you to a BF who said I love you. For me adore was a way of avoiding using love word but he thought it was a notch above love. We were both happy

Ive fallen for you suggests a lust/infatuation component

[Anonymous]

How long have you been dating?

I've fallen for you is pretty clear to me. He isn't ready to say I love you but wants you to know he is smitten.