Guy cone of silence...

[Anonymous]

Met a guy on match two months ago things were going great...had dinner on Tuesday, we were planing a vacation in August, he told me I was "an amazing woman" all good things, but now he isn't texting/ responding to texts (I've one sent him one, smiley face). No more good morning texts, nothing.

What gives? I really fell head over heels so this hurts a lot.

[Anonymous]

How many times did you meet him in person before planning a vacation?

[Anonymous]

sorry to say he used you or got tired/bored.

a real man, a mature man, who's into a woman wouldn't treat her like this. But even if he had grown tired, he would have the integrity to break up face-to-face.

[Anonymous]

Yeah.. I'm thinking he's done.

If he wanted to be with you he'd answer texts in nanoseconds, sadly this is how some men "ease" out of relationships instead of being honest.

I'm a guy btw and this is how I used to do it. Looking back 15 years I still feel ashamed of my behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many times did you meet him in person before planning a vacation?

+1 She is pushy and he dropped her.

[Anonymous]

thanks, obviously not what I wanted to hear, but I get it. He just texted me, telling me to have fun tomorrow ( special kid event ) but I think the damage is done - I'm out.

I am not pushy at all - he was planning the vacation - I was nodding and saying things to the effect of "that sounds nice.."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:thanks, obviously not what I wanted to hear, but I get it. He just texted me, telling me to have fun tomorrow ( special kid event ) but I think the damage is done - I'm out.

I am not pushy at all - he was planning the vacation - I was nodding and saying things to the effect of "that sounds nice.."

Aren't you being a little dramatic? You have known him for two months. I sneeze and two months have gone by. Take your time. Also, he called you an "amazing woman"? I thought only the guys on The Bachelor call someone amazing.

[Anonymous]

Odds are, he found someone better. The joys of online dating... You can pick and choose who you want.

[Anonymous]

Had you posted about him in the past, wondering if he loved you back? Regardless, a quality guy wouldn't do the "fade out".

[Anonymous]

Can u ask what's up with the fade out?

[Anonymous]

You sent one smiley face text and he responds later, acknowledging your special kid event and telling you to have fun, and you're "out" because "the damage is done?"

What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a guy on match two months ago things were going great...had dinner on Tuesday, we were planing a vacation in August, he told me I was "an amazing woman" all good things, but now he isn't texting/ responding to texts (I've one sent him one, smiley face). No more good morning texts, nothing.

What gives? I really fell head over heels so this hurts a lot.

He's not the only one who's communication skills stink. You telling me one minute you're planning to go away on a vacation with dude and the next minute you're like, "the hell with him" because he didn't respond to a smiley face? Geezus.

[Anonymous]

Is he okay? Is he in the hospital or in jail?

[Anonymous]

Whoa OP...I think you need to put on the brakes on this!

You've only been communicating for 2 mos., then just had dinner this past Tuesday, and are already planning on taking a trip w/him??! Good grief.

Or:

Do you mean you have been seeing him for 2 mos. and you last saw him this past Tuesday for dinner and you guys have been planning a trip together for August?

If the former, then I wouldn't be surprised he went radio silent since the whole scenario is just weird. So weird that I cannot even advise you on anything one way or another.

Hopefully it is the latter which sounds more doable.
First, I would try to make sure he is okay.
Make sure he is not in the hospital or in jail as the previous poster questioned. Highly unlikely, but possible. Abducted by aliens? Kidnapped for ransom? Very unlikely and not possible.

Give him a few more days, then send him more than just a "smiley face" text. An emotion is cute, but perhaps write an actual message, tell him something that happened to you or ask his advice about something. See how he responds.

If he doesn't, then I wouldn't push it.
Sometimes people lose interest or meet someone else and they are in an awkward position of having to cut someone out of their lives. No one wants to tell someone directly that they are no longer interested, trust me..So they take the easy way out + just disappear. Cease all communication.

They know it's rude and unfair to leave the other party hanging, but they feel it is a lot better than to tell the person directly that they are being dumped unceremoniously.

It was only 2 mos. I know you must really have liked this guy...As a woman, I fall hard and I fall fast. And I tend to get my heart broken a lot because of this.

Try to not let yourself fall so hard next time. Easier said than done, I know, but you must protect your heart for all it's worth.

Good luck.

*Hugs*

[Anonymous]

I am in a different situation and have known the guy longer as friends. But every now and then he just does that for a day or two. At first I assumed it was lack of interest or a fade-out and was annoyed. Finally when he did it again last week I decided to bring it up. He had a reasonable point of view and it actually had nothing to do with me or our relationship. So if you are not done and ready to walk away, you might tell him it's bothering you and see what he has to say.