Back me up on being the mean, mean mommy
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Anonymous
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DD's room is beyond horrible. Yesterday she found out about an event she wanted to attend this afternoon. I told her we'd clean her room for three hours, then go. She begged to clean by herself for the first hour. When I arrived she'd done NOTHING. I attempted to help but she was so hysterical and whiny that i gave up.
I told her I was so disappointed she hadn't done anything for the first hour, and was being so difficult that I was finished helping, she needed to clean by herself and the event was off. She is in her room hysterically crying now. |
Anonymous
| How old is she? |
Anonymous
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It's called parenting. You go, girl! |
Anonymous
11. I found a math test from December and wanted to throw it out. She was crying she wants to keep it because it's good. The problem is she wants to keep EVERYTHING. There is literally no carpet space without crap on it. She wants to keep a Hello Kitty wrapper because she likes the picture. She wants to keep the Build-a-Bear box (the bear does not live in it) because she likes the box. And on and on. |
Anonymous
| You did the right thing. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like what needed to be done..... |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| There is no way it would take 3 hours to clean one room unless ut was hoarder style, roach infested disgusting...in which case that would be your negligence. So, the 3 hours was too much. Also, did she know what she was supposed to be doing? Did she have a plan? The fact that her room was in that bad of a state makes me think you don't hold her accountable for a regular cleaning routine. |
Anonymous
| I think you did the right thing. Could you give her a shoebox and say, you can keep enough things to fill this box but anything else has to be thrown out? |
Anonymous
| I would let DD go to the event. The room should not have gotten so out of control that it would take three hours to clean. A child (or even teen) could easily feel overwhelmed and not know where to begin. Next week I would make a plan to tackle the job and then for regular maintenance. For example, day 1, pick up all the dirty clothes and put in hamper. Day 2 wash and put away the clothes. Day 3 pick up all the books and put on shelf. When all is back in shape, schedule 10 minutes of pickup time per day. I would not punish a child by taking away today's event when this problem must have been building for some time. |
Anonymous
| It needs to be organized or trash. If it's not done by the time the weekend is over, go in and trash it yourself. |
Anonymous
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You did the right thing.
Just one note - if she doesn't know how to begin cleaning and organizing she's going to struggle with it. If she's not used to it she may need some guidance in creating "keep", "donate" or "toss" piles (or something like that) and how to organize her things. |
Anonymous
Crazy, crazy, crazy advise in the very first sentence. |
Anonymous
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You did the right thing. It is so important to set these expectations and stick to them.
Consider a trip to target or the container store to help her get organized. |
Anonymous
| I can relate to your daughter wanting to keep things. Would it help to take pictures of some things like the math test pages or scan them in? Build a Besr box could be used to store dome items. Make collage of Hello Kitty wrapper and other small papers and hang on wall. Build a Bear box could be used to store small papers for future collage. |