Are we ready for the Thanksgiving Vent thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Pecan PP, if I knew you I would take you for a non-necessities grocery run and we would get a big bag of fresh pecans and your favorite snacks and some produce that is beautiful but way too expensive to justify. I remember something similar happening to me but it was a baking dish that spontaneously cracked on a cooling rack just before I was supposed to leave for a party. And I was out a lot of money for ingredients, a favorite baking dish I couldn’t afford to replace, and had to show up empty handed to the apartment of someone who I didn’t know well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pecan PP, if I knew you I would take you for a non-necessities grocery run and we would get a big bag of fresh pecans and your favorite snacks and some produce that is beautiful but way too expensive to justify. I remember something similar happening to me but it was a baking dish that spontaneously cracked on a cooling rack just before I was supposed to leave for a party. And I was out a lot of money for ingredients, a favorite baking dish I couldn’t afford to replace, and had to show up empty handed to the apartment of someone who I didn’t know well.

+1 if you had a pecan pie gofundme, I’d cover the cost of all of your ingredients!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom always focuses on everyone’s body type and weight. She had already asked me how much three people weigh. I always say it’s rude but she doesn’t care. It is so annoying.

My MIL announced in front of my child with a borderline eating disorder that the flag waving girls in the Macy’s Parade are the ones too fat to be baton twirlers.

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Anonymous wrote:This is such a petty vent. We were invited to a family friend's house for Thanksgiving. One of my favorite Thanksgiving foods is stuffing. These people put candied walnuts in their stuffing and I have a nut allergy. I may go buy some Stove Top tomorrow to have with my leftovers.

That's on you for not telling them about your nut allergy.

I don't expect people to change their menu because of my allergy. It's easy enough for me to avoid things with nuts. I was simply bummed I couldn't have the stuffing.

Nut allergy mom and aunt here, and also a hostess to someone who failed to tell me he was vegetarian because “he didn’t want to be a bother.”

Tell people. Offer to bring something. Tell them please make what you usually do, just let me know. And then they would be happy to accommodate you. What a dangerous game you are playing, one that is quite rude to your HOSTS.

I don't understand how it's rude to not tell them I can't eat nuts. My allergy is mild, not life threatening. I brought a side dish. My parents brought several. I had plenty to eat without eating stuffing. Again, it was just a petty vent that I didn't get any traditional stuffing.

It’s rude because hosts want their guests to have a good time and to feel included. Also, are you insane—what if they offered you something and you had no idea the “magic ingredient” was unexpectedly a nut extract, etc.? You’re crazy. You can’t play fast and loose with nut allergies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else just have alarmingly stupid ILs? Like so dumb that sometimes when they talk I worry that there is some kind of genetic issue and my kids will inherit it? Because I do.

My BIL just announced that he brought steak tips (...why??) but that he packed them in his luggage for some reason (he also brought a cooler, he drove, but he put the steak tips in with his clothes for some reason). He left them there for almost two days and now he's asking me what he should do with them. I'm like "throw them away?" But he wants to salvage them. We are making a typical Thanksgiving dinner. We had asked him if he wanted to make anything or if he had any requests for dinner and he said no, whatever we made was good. But now he's pestering me about these freaking steak tips while my DH and I are both in the midst of making like 6 different items. I am currently in the bathroom texting with my DH, who is in the kitchen, and we are trying to figure out how to deal with this. BIL is very sensitive and prone to blowing up if he feels slighted. Sigh.

I don't normally drink but will be pouring my first glass of wine at 1pm today.

It's 5:00 am and I can't sleep and so glad for this thread. How did you finally dispose of the steak tips?

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Anonymous wrote:12:03 again.

Here’s a sheetpan idea NOT to try:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17fdQbzhpX/?mibextid=wwXIfr

My brother will eat anything but this looks so disgusting that he would pass on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom always focuses on everyone’s body type and weight. She had already asked me how much three people weigh. I always say it’s rude but she doesn’t care. It is so annoying.

My MIL announced in front of my child with a borderline eating disorder that the flag waving girls in the Macy’s Parade are the ones too fat to be baton twirlers.

That is so awful. What is it with all these Boomer almond moms?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was so busy preparing for tons of people at my house that I didn’t get a picture of anything. One family member has a picture of all the kids attending that they took.
(They showed it to me on their phone the day of.)

I sent a text on Friday asking them to send it to me. (My kids are included).

No response. This is a person who routinely ignores my texts.

All I want was one freakin picture of the holiday we hosted! Kicking myself for not remembering to take one.

Can you include them on a group text asking for any photos of the day? Hopefully someone else will have a photo, but if not, the group text may make your picture taker feel obligated to respond.

Yeah, I purposely put it in a “thanks for coming” group text to the whole group (8-9 adults), asking for any pictures anyone took. I specifically said, “Larla I know you got some, but if anyone else has any, I would appreciate them.” No response from anyone.

Oh, did I mention this is my in-laws and that I’m totally sick of them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom always focuses on everyone’s body type and weight. She had already asked me how much three people weigh. I always say it’s rude but she doesn’t care. It is so annoying.

My MIL announced in front of my child with a borderline eating disorder that the flag waving girls in the Macy’s Parade are the ones too fat to be baton twirlers.

That is so awful. What is it with all these Boomer almond moms?

DP. I have one too. Barely eats, always talks about how she should eat more but can't. Looks like a skeleton. The day before Thanksgiving she said in front of my kids that she could only have a few bites at dinner bc she was saving room for pie TOMORROW. When we try and encourage her to eat, I think she likes the attention, so now I just ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad cannot stop taking.

“Did you know that at <nameredacted> University - there is a flock of wild turkeys that chase the students across campus?”

Um, no why would we know or care? Oh, we should care because my cousin went to that university. Cousin graduated from college 20 years ago.

Ha! I have been chased by these turkeys. They are big and mean!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else just have alarmingly stupid ILs? Like so dumb that sometimes when they talk I worry that there is some kind of genetic issue and my kids will inherit it? Because I do.

My BIL just announced that he brought steak tips (...why??) but that he packed them in his luggage for some reason (he also brought a cooler, he drove, but he put the steak tips in with his clothes for some reason). He left them there for almost two days and now he's asking me what he should do with them. I'm like "throw them away?" But he wants to salvage them. We are making a typical Thanksgiving dinner. We had asked him if he wanted to make anything or if he had any requests for dinner and he said no, whatever we made was good. But now he's pestering me about these freaking steak tips while my DH and I are both in the midst of making like 6 different items. I am currently in the bathroom texting with my DH, who is in the kitchen, and we are trying to figure out how to deal with this. BIL is very sensitive and prone to blowing up if he feels slighted. Sigh.

I don't normally drink but will be pouring my first glass of wine at 1pm today.

It's 5:00 am and I can't sleep and so glad for this thread. How did you finally dispose of the steak tips?

Reader, he ate them day after Thanksgiving.
Still waiting to hear details!

[Anonymous]

we were at friends' house yesterday and they asked what we did for Thanksgiving, if we cooked,etc. My spouse replied "we hardly cooked, as it was just the 4 of us."

I wish we had "hardly cooked" but I made--at the request of kids--two different pies, turkey breast, gravy, green beans and cornbread stuffing--and he made (because he likes them) mashed potatoes. I also cleaned the entire house and set the table nicely with my kids while he chillaxed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we were at friends' house yesterday and they asked what we did for Thanksgiving, if we cooked,etc. My spouse replied "we hardly cooked, as it was just the 4 of us."

I wish we had "hardly cooked" but I made--at the request of kids--two different pies, turkey breast, gravy, green beans and cornbread stuffing--and he made (because he likes them) mashed potatoes. I also cleaned the entire house and set the table nicely with my kids while he chillaxed.

I hope you set the record straight, in front of your friends, and that he felt a bit of shame!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we were at friends' house yesterday and they asked what we did for Thanksgiving, if we cooked,etc. My spouse replied "we hardly cooked, as it was just the 4 of us."

I wish we had "hardly cooked" but I made--at the request of kids--two different pies, turkey breast, gravy, green beans and cornbread stuffing--and he made (because he likes them) mashed potatoes. I also cleaned the entire house and set the table nicely with my kids while he chillaxed.

OMG I would have honestly been livid. for realllll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Steak Tips In My Luggage, Yo!

I would add a ChatGPT-generated poem, but our child getting an ecology PhD has shamed us so very effectively on the environmental impact of AI this week that I won’t. But shout out to that poor PP.

Like others, I adore this annual thread. Anyone else remember one of the earlier renditions where a ne’er do well cousin and her boyfriend showed up to the feast with a stolen safe in their car? A poster responded with something like “Let’s crack her open and see what we got!”

We had a nice Thanksgiving with DH’s extended family as usual. My DH is a brilliant man, and generally speaking the opposite of clueless. And yet every year for the 20+ years I’ve been making this massive, complicated meal, he will interrupt my cooking to ask me things like “How many place settings do I need to set out?” My answer is always the same: “The number of people in our family, plus your sister’s family, plus your brother’s family, plus your two parents.” Why?!

But you know this so why not just tell him how many place settings to set out? Common sense is one of our greatest gifts but it only works when we use it!!!!