So I think I just got played - online dating - OK Cupid
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Anonymous
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I am the OP from the previous thread about match.com etiquette.
I have been using the dating site, Ok cupid for about a week now, perhaps a bit longer. I have gotten tons of emails and likes and have written a few emails myself. Today I got an email from OK cupid saying someone was really interested in me. He must have rated me 5 stars for me to receive that email. I looked at his profile (on my phone) and thought he was really cute but did not have time to reply. Later on tonight I logged onto the site on my computer and reviewed his profile. I gave him five stars as well and logged off. A few hours later I got an email from this guy directly saying "It's a Match" and his photo had been changed from the one I previously viewed to a photo of a much older guy AND a girl! What happened? Why would someone do something like that? Are they just playing me? I am in shock right now! Tell me this is NOT common! |
Anonymous
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I would guess that he wanted to come clean about using a younger photo of himself, so he changed the photo and hoped you'd still be ok about his age.
Could the girl be his daughter? |
Anonymous
OP here. Definitely NOT his daughter. The man and woman are around the same age, their arms around each other! This really caught me off guard. The man looks nothing like the guy in the first picture. Actually, the first photo looked like a posed model. Why would someone play stupid games like that? |
Anonymous
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It's online dating, anything is possible! You sound a little to trusting of online dating. I've been on & off online dating for 2 years, my advice to you is always keep your guard up-be very cautious! And if you ever get to the point of actually meeting someone from one of the sights, be careful!!! I always let one friend know where I'm going, what time, the guys name & cell number and text her when I'm home. You can't be too careful at first. Thank goodness, I've always met nice men who were legit.
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Anonymous
| Dial back the drama op. Just ask why the picture change. His answer will tell you more than any picture. |
Anonymous
she's not being overly dramatic. It's pretty bizarre. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I do not plan on writing him back because the whole thing was crazy. I hid him from my profile. But the whole thing got me wondering if people really are who they appear to be. Oh my. . .that was a bit crazy. |
Anonymous
Huh? She already knows enough, not further contact is needed. |
Anonymous
You said she was a "girl", not a woman, do I was confused too. How old do they appear? They probably are looking for a threesome. That's a weird way to do it - you can ask the " open marriage" folks on explicit if that's a common way to proposition someone. I would just ignore them. |
Anonymous
| In my experience, pictures that look like posed models are part of am some scam or other such bullshit, but they never change to an average looking Joe. It's just weird. Move on. |
Anonymous
| Got played?? Getting played is where you develop feelings for a guy. You finally have sex with him after say 1-3 dates and he never speaks to you again. |
Anonymous
| I call April Fools' |
Anonymous
This. She is being very dramatic. All you all did was click a damn like button. |
Anonymous
| OP I am not sure you are ready for online dating or it maybe that you are not cut out for it. Try a matchmaker or activities you are interested in. |
Anonymous
| Send him a link to Craigslist for threesomes. |