Apologize for being an asshole

[Anonymous]

I told my husband he should apologize for being an asshole. He never apologizes for anything. This morning is a case in point. I told him I don't share Hus taste in movies. We were driving in the car after dropping DD off at school. I was upset that he made me watch some dark and heavy war film. His response was to tell me to slow down. The speed limit in the school zone. I just lost it. I pulled over and told him to get out. He did. Then I drove off and then turned around and came back but I couldn't find him. So, I called him like eight times and he did not pick up. When he finally did answer he said he was on the metro. So, he insults me, refuses to apologize, forces me to drive around looking for him, won't answer his phone and now I am so uoset. He dies these things all the time-upsets me and ruins my day. I am so tired of this abuse. I wish he would just give me a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Uh. You kicked him out of the car.

Weirdos.

[Anonymous]

You were speeding and he asked you to slow down (IN A SCHOOL ZONE, WHERE THERE ARE CHILDREN) so you kicked him out of the car and HE should apologize?

Lady, get a fucking grip.

[Anonymous]

Is this a real post?

When my husband wants to watch something that I don't want to watch... I don't watch it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were speeding and he asked you to slow down (IN A SCHOOL ZONE, WHERE THERE ARE CHILDREN) so you kicked him out of the car and HE should apologize?

Lady, get a fucking grip.

Plus she got righteously pissed off in the first place because she didn't like his choice of movie the night before. Who's the real asshole here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were speeding and he asked you to slow down (IN A SCHOOL ZONE, WHERE THERE ARE CHILDREN) so you kicked him out of the car and HE should apologize?

Lady, get a fucking grip.

Plus she got righteously pissed off in the first place because she didn't like his choice of movie the night before. Who's the real asshole here?

He also "forced" her to drive around looking for him, when she kicked him out of the car.

Also, OP, did you think that maybe the reason he wouldn't answer his phone might have been because he was on the metro, where there isn't constant service, and where he was because YOU KICKED HIM OUT OF THE CAR?

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you have problems.

[Anonymous]

Okay, this has to be a troll.

Or a complete lunatic.

[Anonymous]

Woah. You need to take a long, hard look at your actions and words here and take responsibility for yourself. You started in on your DH about a movie pick. You know what? If the movie was disturbing or hard to watch, you presumably could have told him you weren't enjoying it and left the room. But why the heck get into it on a morning commute?

And how did your DH insult you? By telling you to slow down in a school zone!? You write the "he forces me to drive around looking for him". Lady, get yourself to a counselor. YOU chose to kick him to the curb. YOU drove off. YOU chose to drive around looking for him. If my DH kicked me out of the car, no way would I pick up the phone or hang out wondering if he'd show up, I'd need serious time to cool down and evaluate my marriage.

Boy, do I feel for your DH.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should apologize to your husband for being an asshole.

[Anonymous]

I think the one who needs to apologize for being an asshole is you, my dear friend.

[Anonymous]

Can you say dysfunction? I'm just going to pick the easiest example here: He did not "make" you drive all around looking for him. You kicked him out of the car, he got out and found his way to work.

Once you told him to get out of the car, what you did next is on you.

You control your behavior. You cannot control his behavior, and he does not control yours. So, he wants to watch a dark movie and you don't? Don't watch it. Go to another room and read a book, watch a movie on a different TV, get on the computer, do something else. You do argue, you ask him to leave and he leaves. You own that decision (asking him to leave), and you own your next decisions (panicking and driving around like an out of control lunatic who can't disengage.

Learn some self control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my husband he should apologize for being an asshole. He never apologizes for anything. This morning is a case in point. I told him I don't share Hus taste in movies. We were driving in the car after dropping DD off at school. I was upset that he made me watch some dark and heavy war film. His response was to tell me to slow down. The speed limit in the school zone. I just lost it. I pulled over and told him to get out. He did. Then I drove off and then turned around and came back but I couldn't find him. So, I called him like eight times and he did not pick up. When he finally did answer he said he was on the metro. So, he insults me, refuses to apologize, forces me to drive around looking for him, won't answer his phone and now I am so uoset. He dies these things all the time-upsets me and ruins my day. I am so tired of this abuse. I wish he would just give me a divorce.

Back up. He MADE you watch a movie? So, what you're saying is he tied you to a chair, glued your eyes open and placed you in front of the TV or screen at the theater?? Um, I'm sure there are many people on this board who go to bed early because their DH or DW is watching something they have no interest in and well, that's ok. How many of us as kids saw their mom watching Dallas while your father was reading the newspaper in bed. And if he really wants to see a movie that you don't want to see? Tell him to go by himself.

If you're biggest problem is that you don't share the same taste in films, things can't be that bad.

[Anonymous]

See
You
Next
Tuesday

Completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my husband he should apologize for being an asshole. He never apologizes for anything. This morning is a case in point. I told him I don't share Hus taste in movies. We were driving in the car after dropping DD off at school. I was upset that he made me watch some dark and heavy war film. His response was to tell me to slow down. The speed limit in the school zone. I just lost it. I pulled over and told him to get out. He did. Then I drove off and then turned around and came back but I couldn't find him. So, I called him like eight times and he did not pick up. When he finally did answer he said he was on the metro. So, he insults me, refuses to apologize, forces me to drive around looking for him, won't answer his phone and now I am so uoset. He dies these things all the time-upsets me and ruins my day. I am so tired of this abuse. I wish he would just give me a divorce.

He did not insult you, he had nothing to apologize for, he did not force you to do anything.
If you are real he should run for the hills. But you can't be real. Spring break is coming soon enough, get back to your homework.