Sister in law question
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Anonymous
| Would you be upset if your sister in law (husbands sister) was getting married and you were not asked to be in her wedding party? Would it matter if she was in your wedding but it was 10 years ago? |
Anonymous
| No. I would be happy. I hope my bridesmaid days are over. |
Anonymous
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No.
But then, where I come from, they don't make a distinction between the guests and the wedding party, so... to me it is not a snub. Let it go, OP. She has her reasons. |
Anonymous
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No. I would be relieved
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Anonymous
| I was in this situation. At first I was a little hurt, but, I got over it. I realized that I really did not want to deal with being in another wedding. My kid was in her wedding. |
Anonymous
| I was in this exact position. I wouldn't say I was upset - esp since we were already spending about $500 on clothes for our kids to be in the wedding. It did sting a little, though, to realize that she didn't think we were as close as I thought we were. |
Anonymous
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Your lack of details and wording make it impossible to know the situation.
Obviously, you are upset. But what are the details? Is it a small wedding? Are you and SIL close? Is she close with your husband / her brother? What is the relationship like with your in-laws, for all three of you? Who has she chosen for bridesmaids? Do you live far away? Do you have kids? Does she? Snap judgements may not be fair, but your post paints the picture of bitterness; or, you are being passive aggressive. If it's the former, what are you bitter about? Are you two really close, or were you just hoping to be in a wedding? If it's the latter, eek... Don't know what to tell you. |
Anonymous
| No. I was not in my SIL's wedding. DH is her brother, I'm not her sister. We aren't that close, maybe if we hung out as friends I would be upset. |
Anonymous
| No, I'd be thrilled that I did not have to deal with it. You are her SIL, not her friend, not her sister. |
Anonymous
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While I hate being in weddings, I wouldn't complain if family asked me, in fact I would be flattered. In my family, it is expected. In DH's family, SIL whined "what would we be weeeeearing?" instead of answering yes or no, when I asked her to be a bridesmaid. I took that as a "no". Let's just say it set the stage for our relationship. Bad move on her part. Did you ask your DH why (she's such an idiot - keep that last part to yourself)? |
Anonymous
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I get my back up about a lot of things, but whether this would bother me would depend on the relationship with the SIL and the wedding itself. Do you think you are close? Do you like her, like the fiancé, enjoy her company? Is she having 10 bridesmaids and just not you? Did she tell you that she wasn't asking you to be in wedding party or did you have to figure it out?
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Anonymous
| I was surprised/disappointed many years ago when my husband's sister got married and I wasn't in her wedding party. My husband was a groomsman but I was not a bridesmaid. She was in mine and that was only 2-3 years before. I did do a reading. The most annoying part was that I had to spend the whole day with my MIL and FIL. |
Anonymous
So would I. |
Anonymous
| No. I hate being in weddings. |
Anonymous
| No |