I'm so sick of feeling used by the people around me
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Anonymous
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Today I took a look around and realized everyone in my life literally only takes from me and I'm so sick of it and angry.
I wish My circumstances were different and I could tell all the people in my life to go fuck themselves. |
Anonymous
| They only take what you give. |
Anonymous
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No one can take advantage of you without your permission. -Ann Landers |
Anonymous
| Learn the power of saying, "No". I have both friends and family who've took advantage of me. I had to established boundaries with some and I had to end relationships with others. Sometimes it's best to love from afar. Don't be their doormat. They will continue to use you if you let them. Put yourself first. Your well-being and peace of mind is more important than their needs. |
Anonymous
This is very true. I've had to remind myself of this as well. |
Anonymous
| I am also someone who gets exhausted by being surrounded by people who take. I am a natural giver by nature and not good at being a taker so I repeatedly set up dynamics where I give and others take. Even thought I know I do, it still gets frustrating and exhausting and sometimes I get resentful. Once a pattern of giving is set up it is really hard to get out of it or stop giving as it leaves someone with an unfulfilled need. I have learned to set better boundaries at the start. That saying yes to everything just because in that moment I have the time or the resource or the energy is not a good idea because those moments turn into commitments that wear me down. |
Anonymous
| I stopped being in one-way relationships when I had kids and realized that was the only appropriate relationship that required one-way giving. |
Anonymous
+10000000 Stop being a doormat and then you won't feel taken advantage of. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
I like this |
Anonymous
Sorry you feel this way, OP. Do you live in a close in suburb? I think there might be more needy neighborhoods of people closer in, in spite of popular belief. Maybe these people had to try to step on others to get what they want, they don't have their own resources, have depleted/exhausted their own resources, have run out of luck, have to take from others to survive - anything similar. Whatever you do, try to instead align yourself with more like mindedness and less needy. Nothing like having the life sucked out of you by needy, one way, greedy, selfish, ugly people who would gladly stab you in the back, given the chance. If you think someone is sneaky, they are. Time to move on and surround yourself with positive. Avoid people who try to put others in unfavorable light in a desperate effort to make themselves look better. Life is really too short. Besides, your "circumstances" are none of their business. |
Anonymous
I've started telling some of the people in my life to go fuck themselves... almost verbatim, actually. It's not going so well, to tell you the truth. None of those people had any intention of ever helping me out, even when they were aware that my family and I were in extremis, but they haven't responded well at all to my having called them on it. |
Anonymous
I agree with this. Also, only give when just the giving brings you satisfaction and you don't expect anything in return. Helping someone is like giving a gift-give and let it go. Don't obsess about the fact you gave more gifts or more expensive gifts. Only give what you can handle. Don't expect something in return and be pleasantly surprised when someone gives back. |
Anonymous
| My mother is constantly complaining about how people use her. Yet she is the most selfish person I know. So without some examples, I really can't sympathize with you. |
Anonymous
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Don't give what you don't want to give. A gift is meant to be taken...
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