What are "behavior" issues?

[Anonymous]

I read on DCUM how many schools don't accept children with "behavior" issues. Can someone define that for me? My son is 4 and has emotional issues that play out as tantrums. He cannot calm down on his own. He still needs an adult to help him regain control.
Is this a "behavior" issue that an inclusive preschool would not be willing to admit?

[Anonymous]

That is a behavior that could prevent your child from being admitted to certain schools. It really depends on the school. It could also cause him to be counseled out if he is accepted and the school is one who counsels kids out. My DDs school does counsel out kids as young as pre-k.

[Anonymous]

Being disruptive.

[Anonymous]

Yes, what you describe is definitely a "behavioral" issue.

[Anonymous]

Can someone recommend a good pre K program that could teach my child the skills he needs? Should I be looking at Kingsbury, KTS, or Lourie center?

[Anonymous]

Issues that manifest in the child's behavior rather than in physical problems or speech problems or education problems. Yes, tantrums are a behavior issue.

[Anonymous]

If he is 4 and needs adult help to calm I would imagine that you will be paying for a facilitator during school hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Issues that manifest in the child's behavior rather than in physical problems or speech problems or education problems. Yes, tantrums are a behavior issue.

Tantrums can stem from issues like a speech delay for example if a child is frustrated they can't express him or herself.

OP, I think you need to seek professional help and at least understand the cause of why your child is acting this way. Lourie Center or Ivymount might be appropriate, but sometimes ABA therapy, medication, ST is appropriate depending on what the diagnosis is. GL.

[Anonymous]

It's a behavior issue but one something a preschool may well be willing to work with, I think.

[Anonymous]

My son occasionally has a tantrum before school. There could be months w/o one, and then one or two weeks where its 3x a week.

But in a half hour, he has regained himself. His teacher told me this could prevent him from being included in mainstream, even w/ supports and pull-outs... smh....

just wanted to commiserate mom

[Anonymous]

Behavior issue when how a child acts interfers with their social or academic functioning.

It sounds like you r child has poor emotional regulation leading to poor behavioral regulation - that is definitely a behavior issue.

Others include low impulse control, low frustration tolerance with externalization, poor social skills, overreacting, aggression, off task or disruptive behavior etc..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Behavior issue when how a child acts interfers with their social or academic functioning.

It sounds like you r child has poor emotional regulation leading to poor behavioral regulation - that is definitely a behavior issue.

Others include low impulse control, low frustration tolerance with externalization, poor social skills, overreacting, aggression, off task or disruptive behavior etc..

OP -- yes this is exactly my child's issue. We are in a social skills group and see a therapist. I'm wondering if there is a specific nursery school that will help with this issue. We are already in PEP.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Kingsbury has a pre-K or I'd look for an inclusive preschool like St. Columba's or NCRC. I'm very glad you're working on it with you kid. It will be better for him in the long run.

[Anonymous]

KTS pre-K would also help with that. They also say they don't accept "behavior" issues, but by that they mean acting out physically. They're able to help kids learn emotional regulation.

If your child gets help with this self-regulation, he won't be regarded as a "behavior" issue forever. It should a soluble problem with the right time and help invested in it. My advice would to enroll in a pre-K that helps kids with this, with the aim of getting your child to the point where you don't have to describe them as having a behavior issue when you are going for your later academic destination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:KTS pre-K would also help with that. They also say they don't accept "behavior" issues, but by that they mean acting out physically. They're able to help kids learn emotional regulation.

If your child gets help with this self-regulation, he won't be regarded as a "behavior" issue forever. It should a soluble problem with the right time and help invested in it. My advice would to enroll in a pre-K that helps kids with this, with the aim of getting your child to the point where you don't have to describe them as having a behavior issue when you are going for your later academic destination.

Thank you. You told me exactly what I'm trying to figure out. When schools say they don't accept "behavior" issues do they mean hitting, kicking, biting or do they mean they can't handle my kid screaming and crying like a 2 yr old for 10 min? We've come so far in 6 months. It used to be that he was completely inconsolable for hours. Now, you can ignore him for 10 min, let him settle down a bit, give him a brief hug (adult intervention) and he's back playing with the other children. Now obviously, the goal is for him not to lose control or to be able to walk away from an upsetting situation, but that's going to take time--and perhaps some explicit guidance from a school that knows how to teach emotional regulation.

So far, Kingsbury and KTS have been suggested. Any thoughts on Lourie for this type of help? I was also reading on Maddux's website that they say they help with self regulation issues. Any thoughts on that school for this issue?