Question for the men, re: intimacy with pregnant wife

[Anonymous]

I am pregnant with our first child. I'm about 4.5 months along. For the past few weeks (ever since our ultrasound really), DH has been freaked out by sex, knowing the baby is in there. He understands that we won't hurt the baby, but he is having a difficult time wrapping his head around it. He initiated something yesterday, and everything was great until we tried to move from foreplay to actual intercourse, and he lost his erection.

Men: if you were like this, was there something that helped you move past it? DH already has a lower sex drive than me in general, which is frustrating. I'm not ready to go 5 more months with no sex!!

[Anonymous]

your bigger tits will help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your bigger tits will help.

+1.lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your bigger tits will help.

Haha. OP here. That's what I said to him last night. "Yeah, there's a baby in there... but hey, look... BOOBIES!"

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. I think it's pretty common to have much less sex when pregnant.

[Anonymous]

My DH never had issues with it, but I have one couple friend in particular who's DH just really couldn't get over it and they had little to no intercourse her whole pregnancy (x3). You might want to purchase a dildo and he can still pleasure you orally. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

My midwife had a VERY frank talk with DH once while I went to the bathroom, and she showed him how much space there was between where the baby was and how far his penis reached.

On the drive him he was all "Did you know even though I'm not at ALL small it's not even POSSIBLE for me to touch the baby when we have sex?"

.... yes dear ...

[Anonymous]

You better watch it. Having sex while pregnant will result in twins.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. He sounds like a pansy. Pregnancy sex is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that the sex is unlikely to rebound from pregnancy levels when the baby comes along. So, if he wants to have sex later, he better keep the base line high now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. He sounds like a pansy. Pregnancy sex is awesome.

Thanks for the helpful, constructive comment. It is bound to make someone who is already struggling and upset feel even better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. He sounds like a pansy. Pregnancy sex is awesome.

Thanks for the helpful, constructive comment. It is bound to make someone who is already struggling and upset feel even better.

The truth hurts. Her husbands needs to buck up and stop acting so damn childish and immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. He sounds like a pansy. Pregnancy sex is awesome.

Thanks for the helpful, constructive comment. It is bound to make someone who is already struggling and upset feel even better.

The truth hurts. Her husbands needs to buck up and stop acting so damn childish and immature.

[Anonymous]

DW and I kept going up till about 7-8 months. x 3 kids; at that point the geometry and discomfort of a giant belly sort of kill off the mood.

The other thing that's probably dropping his dick is the thoughts of caring for a baby and what that will mean to his world. I felt a tremendous weight on me when DW was pregnant with #1; I lost more than a few erections when thoughts of shit diapers, screaming babies and college funds would would wash over me when I felt or saw her swollen belly.

#2 and #3 didn't have that effect on me, probably because I already knew how fucking miserable I was going to be for the next 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW and I kept going up till about 7-8 months. x 3 kids; at that point the geometry and discomfort of a giant belly sort of kill off the mood.

The other thing that's probably dropping his dick is the thoughts of caring for a baby and what that will mean to his world. I felt a tremendous weight on me when DW was pregnant with #1; I lost more than a few erections when thoughts of shit diapers, screaming babies and college funds would would wash over me when I felt or saw her swollen belly.

#2 and #3 didn't have that effect on me, probably because I already knew how fucking miserable I was going to be for the next 2 years.

Yikes...appreciate the honesty but very glad I'm not married to you. DH and I did it very sporadically during pregnancy because he said it seemed weird, but his drive is low to start with. I wish I had known how uncomfortable sex would be while nursing, so I would have pushed getting more action during pregnancy.