MIL Won't stop kissing newborn
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Anonymous
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Just venting... My MIL won't stop kissing my newborn on the face even though we've asked her several times to stop. It's just disgusting to me that she thinks it's okay to slobber all over my baby. Especially since she is always at the hospital or the doctors office- who knows what kind of germs she can pick up and pass on to my son with his immature immune system. I realize that it's inevitable that my son will pick up germs. But it's still nonetheless disturbing to me that she does this against our wishes.
After she kissed him 10 times tonight I've decided she doesn't know how to follow directions so I will be limiting our interaction with him. Does anyone else have this problem? |
Anonymous
| Are you for real? |
Anonymous
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Feet. Tell her to kiss the baby's feet.
Grandparents are genetically programmed to kiss grandbabies and moms are programmed to be protective. Don't make it a ego issue. Your kid will alright. Everytime someone loves, holds, touches your child, important bonding is taking place. Welcome to parenthood! 
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Anonymous
| I couldn't stop myself. |
Anonymous
+1!! |
Anonymous
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Problems, problems, problems . . .
Sigh. |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
| If she has kissed him more than 3 times in one visit the other 7 & more times won't really matter. Lighten up. |
Anonymous
| I"m so glad I wasn't such a psycho FTM. Yikes. |
Anonymous
| Wow. |
Anonymous
This. Trust me OP, do not make an issue of this. I know it feels really important to you right now and I completely understand. I have been there -- not the same exact issue, but a nervous hormonal FTM with an annoying MIL. But try to realize that your judgment right now is clouded by hormones, lack of sleep, and your whole life being turned upside down. You probably feel like things are out of control, and it's tempting to try to control the things you can. And since you control access to the baby you hold the trump card against anyone who wants to be part of its life. But I PROMISE you that you will look back on this and realize it is not a battle worth picking. You are at the beginning of a new (probably long) chapter in your relationship with your in-laws, and if you start drama now the repercussions could be permanent. Even if you don't agree, humor me. You won't regret it. |
Anonymous
| Sweet, protective FTM: This is not the hill you want to die on. Trust me. |
Anonymous
| I will introduce you to my MIL. You will miss yours. |
Anonymous
| I'm always curious about the men who are married to people like OP (and lets be honest this isn't the only thing she's psycho over). Do they know what they are getting themselves into? Are they like this too? Are they the type of guy who is ok with a crazy wife? Just so many questions. Sometimes I look into my Uncle's eyes and see the deadness there from being married to my Aunt for so long. |
Anonymous
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OP must offer something to her husband even if it is not immediately obvious.
It is more than being a FTM - I think she is bat-shit crazy. |