Normal for guy to want some, even if he is sick or injured?

[Anonymous]

Is it just normal for a guy to be really horny for sex, even if he is really sick or injured?

My husband does this every time he's sick (stomach virus, hangover, cold, etc.)

i.e., yesterday, my husband wouldn't get out of bed until noon. He said his back was hurting so bad he couldn't move (he did move a piece of furniture the previous day, so maybe because of that?) Anyway, when he finally got out of bed, he says that his back hurts so bad, he will just have to stay on the couch the whole day, and he's hungry and for me to make him food. I'm trying to be compassionate and take care of him, so of course I make him food. He proceeds to stay on the couch the entire day, on his laptop, occasionally having me bring him snacks/drinks/etc., and telling our DS (3 yo) that he can't play because his back hurts too bad.

I go non-stop through the day, cleaning and doing laundry, etc. as much as I can while taking care of husband and taking care of and playing with DS.

I myself and just getting over a terrible cold in which one of my eardrums ruptured and I had conjunctivitis in both eyes. My eyes are much better, but I'm still really congested and tired. I'm also in my 1st trimester, so I have not been able to take any decongestants during this cold from hell.

I get DS put to bed, and I finally flop down on the couch, hoping to rest just a few minutes before chaning out the laundry and finishing the dishes, and I look over and DH has his erection out in his hand (showing it to me) and saying he wants to have sex. I'm like, really? I thought your back hurt so bad you couldn't move to do anything. He says that sex will make his back feel better. He always says this - sex will make him feel better when he's stick, vommiting, etc. from a stomach virus....

Is this just a guy thing to be horny and want sex whenever you are sick or feel like crap? When I'm sick, sex is just about the last thing on my mind.

I'm also really annoyed at having to do everything all day, while sick myself, and then him expect me to have sex as soon as I get DS in bed. Am I justified for feeling this way, or am I being too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Wife here, I just got over a bad cold/bronchitis and wanted sex. After knee surgery I was dying to have sex or do something sexual and it drove me nuts that I couldn't. For me, when I'm not busy and just lying around, I tend to think about sex a lot and want it more.

[Anonymous]

Why is this all about you? Can't you just be sensitive to his needs?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have marital issues.

[Anonymous]

Nice he thinks you are attractive when you are congested and have conjunctivitis. Maybe he loves you or something.

[Anonymous]

I got one for you--I sprained my ankle so badly I needed help to get up from the toilet since I couldn't put any weight on my foot.

After trying desperately to get up by myself, I called DH. DH whipped it out while I was sitting there. He said seeing me so helpless was kind of a turn-on, could I do him a favor. Needless to say, it wasn't happening.

Male libido is a strange animal.

[Anonymous]

Hilariously normal!

[Anonymous]

Male libido is really strange. My husband is the worst when he is really, really tired - like he stayed up working late and got up early a couple of nights in a row. We've actually coined a term "primitive husband" (except his fist name ins tea dog husband. When he's at his worst, his most base instincts come out, and that means he just wants sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got one for you--I sprained my ankle so badly I needed help to get up from the toilet since I couldn't put any weight on my foot.

After trying desperately to get up by myself, I called DH. DH whipped it out while I was sitting there. He said seeing me so helpless was kind of a turn-on, could I do him a favor. Needless to say, it wasn't happening.

Male libido is a strange animal.

lol, that's hilarious!

[Anonymous]

Yes it's normal for a man to want some : )

[Anonymous]

My husband is a once a week guy, even if he's not sick, so I'll have to read the other responses to see how a normal guy would be.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. What a turn-off. I don't know if it's normal.

[Anonymous]

Female here.
Lying in bed makes me want to have sex. Maybe, its a Pavlovian response. So, I get up and do work and keep busy and do not get near our bed. If I want to nap, I choose the couch.

When DH is in bed with me, he always finds me ready for sex. Its not him. Its my association with lying around = getting sex. Maybe that is what is happening with your DH.

[Anonymous]

I will assume that the poster about "what about his needs," is a guy. Come on! You're pregnant, have a 3 year old, are sick yourself, cared for your DH all day and somehow, the second you get a minute to sit down, you're not being compassionate to your DH???? When was he thinking about your needs?

I do not find someone sick and throwing up to be sexually attractive. Call me crazy.

Do I think this is normal? I guess so. Would I have wanted to have sex at that moment? No. I want someone who is as in tune with my needs as I am with his, and when I'm sick and can't get out of bed, I'm sick and can't get out of bed. It's not the best time to have sex.

[Anonymous]

OMG. My husband is looking pretty good to me right now after hearing some of these approaches.

Dear god.