Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

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Anonymous wrote:SAHMs who claim they stay home to teach their kids, so their kids can learn from them, etc - yet they can barely put a coherent sentence together and seem to spend all their time on DCUM.

Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

No it's 'ours". That's what makes marriage unique.

Legally it is his, during marriage.

In other words, it could go to an account in his name and you do not have any legal right to that account.

He gives you half as a gift, that is why it is a good marriage. Not all H do this.

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Anonymous wrote:I oppose all things Komen Foundation, and all that pinkwashing ribbon BS.

+1000

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

Um, if you are staying home doing all of the childcare and homemaking as your end of the deal and your husband is making the money as his end of the deal then saying "our income" is totally correct. And I'm a working mom who contributes 50% to our income but still recognize that being a SAHM is a job.

No, it's not. So when DH gets a raise or bonus for finishing a difficult project or solving a difficult problem at work, does the SAHM get to say, "Wow. we got a raise because we thought of a really great solution to that problem/difficult project." No, she does not. And for those of you that'll come back here saying that by her taking care of all the household things she gave him the ability to get that project done. You need to compare whether he would have completed that project if he were a single man living alone. He thought up whatever that project entailed - he was the creative or trained or talented mind that did it. That's why she doesn't earn that income.

she has every right to share ownership of the bank account where that icome was deposited (OUR money, OUR accounts) and share ownership of the assets (OUR house, OUR cars) because she does work as a SAHM and contributes equally to the household. But it's definitely NOT correct that it's equally her income.

There is no legal shared ownership during marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Religion

I am the first poster who said I don't like the Hijab. I actually am not crazy about other outward displays of religion either. But of course I don't think they should be banned.

I am all about freedom. And it's even more dangerous when a society starts to tell women (or anyone) what they can and cannot wear, than it is to have to see a cross or a yarmulke or a hijab.

I cannot deny the visceral reaction I have in my heart, and I have to work to overcome my reaction. That is my secret.

Unlike my conservative relatives who piss me off by saying the hijab should be banned. I would never support such an effort.

I don't understand how anyone can say they want to ban the hijab. Niqab I totally understand, but a hair covering? Should we ban all hats? All wigs? All hair accessories? All hair dye? Nun habits? Wearing bandanas on your head? It's just hair - what's the big deal about covering or changing the social appearance of it? Who really cares?

I guess this equivalent of not just banning cross necklaces, but banning *all* necklaces.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

Um, if you are staying home doing all of the childcare and homemaking as your end of the deal and your husband is making the money as his end of the deal then saying "our income" is totally correct. And I'm a working mom who contributes 50% to our income but still recognize that being a SAHM is a job.

No, it's not. So when DH gets a raise or bonus for finishing a difficult project or solving a difficult problem at work, does the SAHM get to say, "Wow. we got a raise because we thought of a really great solution to that problem/difficult project." No, she does not. And for those of you that'll come back here saying that by her taking care of all the household things she gave him the ability to get that project done. You need to compare whether he would have completed that project if he were a single man living alone. He thought up whatever that project entailed - he was the creative or trained or talented mind that did it. That's why she doesn't earn that income.

she has every right to share ownership of the bank account where that icome was deposited (OUR money, OUR accounts) and share ownership of the assets (OUR house, OUR cars) because she does work as a SAHM and contributes equally to the household. But it's definitely NOT correct that it's equally her income.

I'm a sham (well kinda, I'm a ft student as well) and I agree with this. It's like a man saying "we're pregnant". No, you're not. It's OUR kid, but I'M pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Forgot: Immigration (illegal or otherwise).

are you native american??? Because if you aren't, then you are pretty damned hypocritical.

+1

Try a new line. This one is waaaaaaaay played out.

May be played out, but it's true.

I hate illegal immigration. HATE! But my parents were legal immigrants, my father worked in an industry in the 70s where they needed educated people, he has paid taxes for over 40 years, raised children, contributed to society, and is the epitome of an "American".

So while this is a forum for "shameful" oppositions, this is just a stupid one.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be the most hated person on DCUM

I am an immigrant
I am in an interracial marriage
I used and egg donor
I used a surrogate
I (well the surrogate) transferred two eggs – both took
My daughter has pierced ears with earrings
I dress my twins identically with perfectly coordinated outfits
I SAH for 8 years and I had a nanny
I now work so my kids can all go to private school
I drive an SUV
I ff all my kids
We eat 99% organic
I wear tory burch
I have 4 kids
I had the last 2 (twins) at 47
I’m an evangelical Christian
I was vegan for about a year but gave it up
My twin boys are circumcised though my oldest isn’t
I tried to have a shoeless house but my husband ignored me – he’s French (‘nuff said)
I am very fussy about germs
I CANNOT cook even with recipes. Even my husband has said that from now on when we have guests for dinner we should just have it catered
We co-slept by accident
My daughter and oldest son had occupational therapy for sensory issues
There is more but I must stop now for fear of being virtually bitch slapped by DCUM

I want to be your friend.

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Anonymous wrote:I oppose Gay Marriage.

Go in the other room, honey. The grown-ups are talking.

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Anonymous wrote:I am personally sick of the "troop love" everyone in the military is a hero sentiment. Let's face it 80% of those enlisted (not officers) would be flipping burgers if they did not have the military as an option. It is a glorified welfare system

THIS. My niece joined the Army because she couldn't hack it in COMMUNITY COLLEGE and was a lazy douche. She shipped out for basic training in her fatigues and while she was walking through the airport people started clapping and yelling and calling her a hero. It was the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen. The only heroic thing she's ever done was take the bus by herself.

This made me LOL

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gay marriage

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!

Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.

I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.

I'm not the above poster, but I actually completely understand this, because I have the opposite view: I am completely disdainful of women who are well-educated and come from impressive professions who give that up to stay at home with their kids. Why would anyone choose to give up a fabulous career to stay at home? Women who didn't make much money or had crappy jobs, "I feel sorry for." So I guess it's not surprising that there are SAHMs that feel the same way about us "by choice" working women!

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Anything with that stupid Tory Burch gold plated logo. Yeah yeah we get it. You spent $200 for a pair of ballet flats and $750 for a hobo bag.

It's a wonder TB spends any money on marketing. She has all of DC wearing her stuff; like sheep.

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Totally agree with you, 16:08.

I can't understand how any woman with a brain can stay home with children for more than a few months. When I meet one who gave up a really great career (or "put it on hold") I may say "good for you" but I'm thinking "what a waste."

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Anonymous wrote:gay marriage

I said, GO PLAY.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

Um, if you are staying home doing all of the childcare and homemaking as your end of the deal and your husband is making the money as his end of the deal then saying "our income" is totally correct. And I'm a working mom who contributes 50% to our income but still recognize that being a SAHM is a job.

No, it's not. So when DH gets a raise or bonus for finishing a difficult project or solving a difficult problem at work, does the SAHM get to say, "Wow. we got a raise because we thought of a really great solution to that problem/difficult project." No, she does not. And for those of you that'll come back here saying that by her taking care of all the household things she gave him the ability to get that project done. You need to compare whether he would have completed that project if he were a single man living alone. He thought up whatever that project entailed - he was the creative or trained or talented mind that did it. That's why she doesn't earn that income.

she has every right to share ownership of the bank account where that icome was deposited (OUR money, OUR accounts) and share ownership of the assets (OUR house, OUR cars) because she does work as a SAHM and contributes equally to the household. But it's definitely NOT correct that it's equally her income.

There is no legal shared ownership during marriage.

PP you're quoting. you are right - I assumed they'd have joint accounts and both their names on car titles and house. I made that assumption because if she goes around saying "our income...we earn..." then I can't imagine her name not being on all those things.