1-3% false positives means that there are going to be some guys with girlfriends and wives who test positive but didn't have the sexually transmitted disease. Obviously, 97-99% of the time, the test came back positive because she really was infected, but OP might be in the 1-3% and her husband could be telling the truth.
Think of it this way. If 1000 different married women wrote in to DCUM with this story, and all of them kicked out their husbands for their obvious cheating, 10-30 of them would have kicked out a guy who didn't actuall infect them. |
Wut? |
OP, I'm thinking of you. I've been through the kind of gaslighting your DH is doing now. It's torture. I wish you peace and certainty. You deserve both. |
It was not HPV or Herpes or anything that lies dormant. Can we drop those sidethreads? DH was cheating and now he's lying. |
OP, can you give an update? I'm finding myself in this exact situation. My husband of 7 years swore on our 16 month old son's life that he would never hurt me like that. But I just can't think of any other logical explanation. I am still a new mother and I have always trusted my husband wholeheartedly. I was having symptoms, green discharge, and tested positive for BV and trichamonos. I was negative last year for my pap and negative while pregnant. Husband thinks I will be throwing away out marriage over a false positive. He is going to get tested next week so we shall see. |
Seriously?? There are various non-sexual methods to getting various STDs, so if you won't even tell what it is, then this is simply a troll thread. |
I had BV, gardnerella. It was nonsexually transmitted. I was in cancervtreatment and we were not doing anything for quite a while before. Never got it since. |
Of course it matters what the STD is because many of them can lie dormant for many years and you don’t even know where you got it from. It’s not necessarily always that somebody cheated. |
That’s irrelevant. Some STDs can lie dormant for even 20 years like HPV. And herpes. |
HPV is not HSV. there’s no outbreak of HPV. 🙄 |
I'm the prior poster with an ex who thought I gave her ghonorea. I ended up reaching out to the other women I slept with while I was broken up with the woman who tested positive. They told me they also tested negative. So I still think the one positive test was a false positive. I'm not saying OP's husband didn't cheat, but sometimes there are false positives (and negatives). |
Just to let you know I tested positive for that when I was pregnant. Knew it was a mistake since neither of us had cheated. Tested again and it was negative. Never understood why. I read somewhere that this happpened to someone else so Re-test!! before jumping to conclusions. |
Does bv mean spouse had recent affair? |
What does BV mean? |
Bacterial vaginosis |