The Death of Private School As We Know It

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Anonymous wrote:A mom in my neighborhood moved her kids from our public to private and now that our oldest are graduating and off to college and her DC did not get into a Top and is going to a small high acceptance rate school but expensive (rich kids regular school prestige)

She seemed upset that her plan of private school was to get her kid in a better college did not pan out. I was secretly enjoying that comment!

We are moving from private to public after the year is up. We are at a highly-regarded private and has this reputation only because it’s an expensive private and people assume so it just keeps getting repeated.

I have kids in public and private but although I see these comments frequently on DCUM, I’m very skeptical that this is a common experience. I think there are a few disgruntled posters who post a LOT but they don’t reflect a common reality, at least not in the 6-12 private world, which is where I spend my time. Actually if anything the schools I am familiar with are stressed because not enough kids are leaving for public at 8th and admissions are worried about having too few admissions spots for the high school. In one school I know, there have traditionally been multiple slots open up from kids who left for public in 8th. This year there were none. Last year there was none. It means the high school admissions have become even more competitive.

The uptick in private admissions is a reaction to covid. It is a temporary phase.

I don’t think so, not based on what I am seeing. But more to the point, the reality of the private schools I am familiar with doesn’t match what I see on DCUM. There are a few prolific disgruntled posters who talk about kids leaving private for public, and I’m just not seeing that in any fashion whatsoever. What I am seeing is impacted admissions that are tighter than they’ve ever been, and fewer kids leaving for public than in the past.

I think there are a couple of posters who post a ton, but they don’t seem to reflect any reality I’m seeing. My only point is that there seems to be a big disconnect between DCUM and reality.

Everyone know that Covid caused a lot of families to seek private school when typically they would not have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see that Disgruntled St. Anselm's Mom has hijacked yet another thread!

Much like you just hijacked it, you are just as annoying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see that Disgruntled St. Anselm's Mom has hijacked yet another thread!

Maybe you need to spend less time on here.

I’m not that PP but that PP is right. I wish the disgruntled St. Anselm’s mom would go away. She is essentially trolling at this point and derails a lot of good discussions. Her posts are distinctive and identifiable, and I do wish she’d post a lot less. She is relentless. It’s kind of bizarre tbh.

And I have no affiliation whatsoever with St. Albans. I’m just tired of the constant derailing. We get it, lady. You weren’t happy. Stop interrupting literally every private school thread with your tale of woe. It is so annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see that Disgruntled St. Anselm's Mom has hijacked yet another thread!

Maybe you need to spend less time on here.

I’m not that PP but that PP is right. I wish the disgruntled St. Anselm’s mom would go away. She is essentially trolling at this point and derails a lot of good discussions. Her posts are distinctive and identifiable, and I do wish she’d post a lot less. She is relentless. It’s kind of bizarre tbh.

And I have no affiliation whatsoever with St. Albans. I’m just tired of the constant derailing. We get it, lady. You weren’t happy. Stop interrupting literally every private school thread with your tale of woe. It is so annoying.

Sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see that Disgruntled St. Anselm's Mom has hijacked yet another thread!

Maybe you need to spend less time on here.

I’m not that PP but that PP is right. I wish the disgruntled St. Anselm’s mom would go away. She is essentially trolling at this point and derails a lot of good discussions. Her posts are distinctive and identifiable, and I do wish she’d post a lot less. She is relentless. It’s kind of bizarre tbh.

And I have no affiliation whatsoever with St. Albans. I’m just tired of the constant derailing. We get it, lady. You weren’t happy. Stop interrupting literally every private school thread with your tale of woe. It is so annoying.

Why are you on here that much and on every private school thread? Seemingly a school administrator looking to suppress some
people and information?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see that Disgruntled St. Anselm's Mom has hijacked yet another thread!

Maybe you need to spend less time on here.

I’m not that PP but that PP is right. I wish the disgruntled St. Anselm’s mom would go away. She is essentially trolling at this point and derails a lot of good discussions. Her posts are distinctive and identifiable, and I do wish she’d post a lot less. She is relentless. It’s kind of bizarre tbh.

And I have no affiliation whatsoever with St. Albans. I’m just tired of the constant derailing. We get it, lady. You weren’t happy. Stop interrupting literally every private school thread with your tale of woe. It is so annoying.

Pot meet keetle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A mom in my neighborhood moved her kids from our public to private and now that our oldest are graduating and off to college and her DC did not get into a Top and is going to a small high acceptance rate school but expensive (rich kids regular school prestige)

She seemed upset that her plan of private school was to get her kid in a better college did not pan out. I was secretly enjoying that comment!

We are moving from private to public after the year is up. We are at a highly-regarded private and has this reputation only because it’s an expensive private and people assume so it just keeps getting repeated.

I have kids in public and private but although I see these comments frequently on DCUM, I’m very skeptical that this is a common experience. I think there are a few disgruntled posters who post a LOT but they don’t reflect a common reality, at least not in the 6-12 private world, which is where I spend my time. Actually if anything the schools I am familiar with are stressed because not enough kids are leaving for public at 8th and admissions are worried about having too few admissions spots for the high school. In one school I know, there have traditionally been multiple slots open up from kids who left for public in 8th. This year there were none. Last year there was none. It means the high school admissions have become even more competitive.

The uptick in private admissions is a reaction to covid. It is a temporary phase.

I don’t think so, not based on what I am seeing. But more to the point, the reality of the private schools I am familiar with doesn’t match what I see on DCUM. There are a few prolific disgruntled posters who talk about kids leaving private for public, and I’m just not seeing that in any fashion whatsoever. What I am seeing is impacted admissions that are tighter than they’ve ever been, and fewer kids leaving for public than in the past.

I think there are a couple of posters who post a ton, but they don’t seem to reflect any reality I’m seeing. My only point is that there seems to be a big disconnect between DCUM and reality.

Everyone know that Covid caused a lot of families to seek private school when typically they would not have.

You missed the point entirely. The point is that there are some prolific posters here who are talking about kids leaving private for public. They post here over and over and over again. But what I am saying is these posts do not match the reality I see. There are no kids in the schools I’m familiar with leaving for public in 8th grade, for instance, whereas in the past there would have been.

It doesn’t matter in the end, I’m just saying that the posts on DCUM about kids leaving private for public isn’t reflected in my corner of the world. That’s all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

I will add public school parent on here don’t know what you’re missing because you have not experienced it. The top privates in this area offer so many amazing things ie: the facilities, the community, the small classes, teachers that know every students’ name, classes that have a maximum of 15 to 16 kids in it. There’s no way I would ever trade the experience. If I had to choose between getting into Harvard or going private from pre-K to 12 I would choose private. Hands-down absolutely no question.

I’ve experience both public and now private. Save your list of “amazing” things. I could give you a whole run down of not amazing things at the school my child is at which ranks just below Albans. Which by the way you never mentioned academics, so your priorities are off. You just want polish.

Polish and contacts are big in this world if you plan on being more than a government bureaucrat or middle manager.

There is nothing more pleasant than being a middle manager! Do not knock it until you've tried it ...
This thread has AFFLUENZA written all over it.
Y'all aren't doing your kids any favors ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

How does paying for an excellent education for your child contribute to the dumbing down of education?

[Anonymous]

Lol.woe is you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can get the same/better education in public. Go waste money somewhere else.

I bet it's mostly so the parents can brag.

Keep telling yourself that. And isn’t just the typical classes that make for a well rounded education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is hysterical. So much posturing from both sides. To the OP and the other bitter PPs, tough luck that your K-12 tuition dollars don't guarantee your kids a guaranteed glidepath to a T20 school. It's grotesque to see the casual racism and classism that is unleashed by the possible loss of an iota of privilege.

And to those sanctimommies who are insisting you don't give a fig about college outcomes after shelling out $50k a year for 13 years, puhleez. If it was all about "community and service," there's plenty of opportunity for both in public schools. You paid a premium for the cachet and handholding of private kindergarten; you're really going to cheer when your kids go to a third-tier public university?

Right! all I hear is waaaaah waaaaah waaaaah!!!

Your White and White Adjascent kids will do fine in life, have a better chance of coming out of any benign police interaction alive, most likely will get premium interest rates for their home loans, won't suffer the negative mental and health effects of daily racism * "macro-agression bc micro agression is a fallacy" neither be on the losing end of health disparities, employment discrimiation and still get the benefit of being considered the default/norm/welcome/real Amerians (sans the Asians) and granted the benefit of the doubt of being honest, credit worthy, intelligent, capable....

you know the same benefits being thrown around about them by all the racist and classist A-hole parents commenting on this thread.

cry me a river.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

I will add public school parent on here don’t know what you’re missing because you have not experienced it. The top privates in this area offer so many amazing things ie: the facilities, the community, the small classes, teachers that know every students’ name, classes that have a maximum of 15 to 16 kids in it. There’s no way I would ever trade the experience. If I had to choose between getting into Harvard or going private from pre-K to 12 I would choose private. Hands-down absolutely no question.

I’ve experience both public and now private. Save your list of “amazing” things. I could give you a whole run down of not amazing things at the school my child is at which ranks just below Albans. Which by the way you never mentioned academics, so your priorities are off. You just want polish.

Polish and contacts are big in this world if you plan on being more than a government bureaucrat or middle manager.

There is nothing more pleasant than being a middle manager! Do not knock it until you've tried it ...
This thread has AFFLUENZA written all over it.
Y'all aren't doing your kids any favors ...

I aspired for more for myself. Now I'm wealthy. And I aspire for more for my kids.

[Anonymous]

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I aspired for more for myself. Now I'm wealthy. And I aspire for more for my kids.



quote=Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

I will add public school parent on here don’t know what you’re missing because you have not experienced it. The top privates in this area offer so many amazing things ie: the facilities, the community, the small classes, teachers that know every students’ name, classes that have a maximum of 15 to 16 kids in it. There’s no way I would ever trade the experience. If I had to choose between getting into Harvard or going private from pre-K to 12 I would choose private. Hands-down absolutely no question.

I’ve experience both public and now private. Save your list of “amazing” things. I could give you a whole run down of not amazing things at the school my child is at which ranks just below Albans. Which by the way you never mentioned academics, so your priorities are off. You just want polish.

Polish and contacts are big in this world if you plan on being more than a government bureaucrat or middle manager.

There is nothing more pleasant than being a middle manager! Do not knock it until you've tried it ...
This thread has AFFLUENZA written all over it.
Y'all aren't doing your kids any favors ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is hysterical. So much posturing from both sides. To the OP and the other bitter PPs, tough luck that your K-12 tuition dollars don't guarantee your kids a guaranteed glidepath to a T20 school. It's grotesque to see the casual racism and classism that is unleashed by the possible loss of an iota of privilege.

And to those sanctimommies who are insisting you don't give a fig about college outcomes after shelling out $50k a year for 13 years, puhleez. If it was all about "community and service," there's plenty of opportunity for both in public schools. You paid a premium for the cachet and handholding of private kindergarten; you're really going to cheer when your kids go to a third-tier public university?

Right! all I hear is waaaaah waaaaah waaaaah!!!

Your White and White Adjascent kids will do fine in life, have a better chance of coming out of any benign police interaction alive, most likely will get premium interest rates for their home loans, won't suffer the negative mental and health effects of daily racism * "macro-agression bc micro agression is a fallacy" neither be on the losing end of health disparities, employment discrimiation and still get the benefit of being considered the default/norm/welcome/real Amerians (sans the Asians) and granted the benefit of the doubt of being honest, credit worthy, intelligent, capable....

you know the same benefits being thrown around about them by all the racist and classist A-hole parents commenting on this thread.

cry me a river.

Our kids will not benefit from diversity quotas or affirmative action. They will not be a protected class at work either.