Being left back in kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

My DC's kindergarten teacher mentioned the possibility of him being left back at the end of the year. My immediate thought was that we would need to switch schools so that repeating would not be too awkward for him. Has anyone let their child repeat kindergarten and remain in the same school? All opinions appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I did kinder twice and I wished I had switched schools.
All through elementry kids asked me about it. It was really hard for me. I did end up skipping 8th to catch up because the teasing never stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did kinder twice and I wished I had switched schools.
All through elementry kids asked me about it. It was really hard for me. I did end up skipping 8th to catch up because the teasing never stopped.

Were you too young or what?

[Anonymous]

I know a family that had one of their DC repeat K. Several years on, no one even remembers that she was once a grade ahead. She's happy and does well in school. Not everyone matures at the same rate. I give her parents kudos for doing what was best for her rather than what was less embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

A child at our school was held back. The problem is all the 1st graders know. And talk about it. If it were my DC, I would switch schools.

[Anonymous]

It happens at our school. For either pre-k or k. No one seems to notice and the teachers are acting in your child's best interest. Trust them. Giving a kid the gift of time is very valuable.

[Anonymous]

There's like 5 more months left of school. I'd ask for a list of things you can work on with him at home to get him caught up. I'd also ask for a re-evaluation in June, as well as a second opinion.

Leaving a child back, like skipping a child forward, should only be in extreme circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Reapet but switch schools for a fresh start

[Anonymous]

Original poster here. Thank you both for your insight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A child at our school was held back. The problem is all the 1st graders know. And talk about it. If it were my DC, I would switch schools.

Where did your six year old child learn to gossip??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It happens at our school. For either pre-k or k. No one seems to notice and the teachers are acting in your child's best interest. Trust them. Giving a kid the gift of time is very valuable.

Agree. No one cares.

[Anonymous]

OP, here again, our child actually turned 5 at the beginning of the September 2013 school year. We've been going to 6 year old birthday parties since the school year began. He keeps asking "when will I turn 6?" I think that if we kept him in the school he knows and loves and told him he was actually going to be in a class with kids his age as opposed to a bunch of 7 year olds, he would be alright with that.

[Anonymous]

To be held back, a student would have to be doing very poorly. So what did the teacher tell you OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be held back, a student would have to be doing very poorly. So what did the teacher tell you OP?

No, that's completely wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be held back, a student would have to be doing very poorly. So what did the teacher tell you OP?

No, that's completely wrong.

What else would it mean? And, it's not completely wrong. I was told by my son's second grade teacher and by our principal that a child had to be doing extremely before they would even consider holding a child back. My son was well below grade level in reading and math even with supports and pull out services (no IEP or 504, but got services to try to help him reach grade level) but they insisted on moving him on.