When your friend attracts guys and you don't
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Anonymous
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And yet all of our male friends think that my friend and I are equally attractive? Some of them think I'm slightly cuter, I just dress a little more conservatively (though she doesn't dress remotely "skanky" at all, just more figure-fitting). But I don't understand why whenever we go out, even for lunch during the day time, my friend constantly gets hit on. This happens to several of my other friends too. I never get hit on.
And yet all my friends insist that I'm good-looking. My male friends tell me I'm attractive too. I just feel so resentful and upset and confused. Anyone else find themselves in my position? |
Anonymous
| "Appeal" isn't just your looks. |
Anonymous
| That was me, OP. No words of advice, but I think I just gave off a more conservative, hard to read vibe. Too much work for the guys. |
Anonymous
| You may get hit on more than you realize. |
Anonymous
| Is that how you want to get a boyfriend? |
Anonymous
| what kind of eye contact are you making? is she flirting when she glances at them. you have to let men know you are interested somehow. maybe she is without realizing it or you are giving off a not interested vibe and don't know it. practice smiling with your eyes and slight changes of the mouth. you have to look but not stare, but long enough for them to also see you checking them out. |
Anonymous
| Op have you posted here before about relationship/attracting a man advice? |
Anonymous
| Does your friend appear more approachable? Does she make more eye contact and smile more at others? |
Anonymous
| You are probably giving off closed energy. I would bet your body language is very insecure. |
Anonymous
She's a troll? |
Anonymous
| you don't have confidence. she does. men know this. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Haven't posted before. Yes my friend's body language is more relaxed, mine is more stiff/rigid. And she definitely smiles and laughs a lot, though I feel like I do too.
I think it's possible that I give off a closed off, quiet energy. How do I change that? |
Anonymous
| Leverage the cleavage? |
Anonymous
| Confidence. |
Anonymous
| Just be yourself. Get comfortable in your own skin and work on boosting your self-esteem. |